Post # 1
I have this woman I’m Facebook friends with who is having a huge 50th birthday bash this Saturday. I don’t know her all that well, only in passing really, so I’m not considering attending anyway. She’s been posting about it since Thanksgiving. It’s this elaborate affair with a live band, dinner, and a cash bar. The kicker is, she’s charging $50 pp to attend! And this week, she’s been posting personal questions about herself for people to answer for a chance to win tickets! It’s quite sad; no one is liking her posts or commenting. I have a feeling she’s going to be upset when this party she’s hoping her guests will pay for turns out to be a flop.
Has anyone heard or seen anything like this? It just seems so rude to charge admission to your birthday party, where guests will have to presumably a)buy you a present and b)pay for their own drinks.
Post # 2
Eww, no! I haven’t seen this.
Post # 4
Nope, nope, nope, nope, nope. Hell to the no.
Post # 5
annabeth929 : this is not a thing. And I’m encouraged by the fact that no one is playing into her ridiculousness!
Post # 6
I would never go, and I would never invite.her to anything. Classless. Self-indulgent. Offensive
Post # 7
When we were in our early 20s, we’d have birthday parties at bars and they would put together a $25 all you can drink/eat package. I guess that’s sort of the same thing in a way.
I didn’t think it was rude back then because none of us could afford to throw parties and everyone did it.
Post # 8
That’s hecka tacky, but I also can’t help but feel pity. 50 is a really big one, I can understand why she’d like it to be a positive experience and memory. A bash like that ain’t cheap; she’s practically throwing a wedding, expense wise. I don’t know what her circumstances are, does she have any family who could’ve chipped together to throw her a special party? In my imagination, she’s alone and broke but wanted to find a way to have a special birthday anyway…that’s obviously a huge presumption, though, and really the only way I could half-justify it in my mind, lol
Post # 9
Definitely not a thing I’ve ever encountered… lol
Post # 10
But wait, she is charging $50 and it’s still a cash bar? At least the $25 got us all you can drink and eat. It was cheaper than a normal night out.
Post # 11
this is awfully pathetic. wow. this reminds me of the time my aunt sent out actual hard copy invitations to people for her 50th birthday. the theme was “new york state of mind” and it was super fancy and she wanted you to dress up and join her for dinner at this fancy restaurant. we all show up and its literally just a large group of people sitting down for dinner and paying for themselves. needless to say, everyone was talking about how tacky it was. people are weird
Post # 12
sharpshooter : I don’t mind this. Especially during college years. I went to quite a few parties where the host was clear about not wanting gifts, but just attendance at the party. At 50, I expect you to pick up at least part of the tab. Whether that be a limited bar or dinner. She seemingly expects for her guest to pay for admission, bar tab and a gift. Why not just have something smaller at the house that is catered and have bartender. I went to a LOVELY party at a friends home like this.
Do you think ANYONE is going to pay?
Post # 13
- Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL
Oh wow, no. You host, you pay!
It’s going to be a disaster when no one shows up and she has to foot the entire bill anyways.
Post # 14
annabeth929 : All the wisdom that usuallly comes from walking on this earth for 50 years has evidently eluded this person.
Post # 15
- Wedding: April 2017 - City, State
I don’t pay for adults to celebrate their birthdays like that. I might treat someone to dinner, but no way am I funding their cash bar festivities.