Is selling tickets to your birthday party a thing now?

posted 4 months ago in The Lounge
Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

Yeah..that’s pretty brazen.  To throw yourself a party and charge people to attend it…

Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2020

I guess I understand her thinking…but no. I’ve only seen ticketed events for fundraisers or mutually celebratory/beneficial events like reunions or conferences. To pay to celebrate someone ELSE is kind of strange.

Post # 18
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Sugar bee

hahah no. 

I’ve had friends that were club promoters and event producers and stuff that would sometimes throw parties for their friends at their club/venue that would have cover charge. But it was more like a themed club night that was open to the public. They’d have charged the same for any other night. 

Post # 19
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Honey bee

No.  It’s not a thing.  Or not a regular thing to me at least.  I’ve heard stories and I’m thinking people must encounter it enough because when I hosted a surprise party for one of my mom’s “big birthdays” I had a few people ask me how much they owed me.  The few who asked seemed shocked and grateful when I told them nothing.  It wasn’t the level of this, but it was definitely more elaborate than a backyard bbq (45 guests, heavy apps, open bar, chartered boat cruise).  It never occurred to me to charge people for a party I decided to throw.  I was lucky enough to be in the financial position to do that for her, but had I not been then it would have been cake and punch with family only.  It sucks sometimes not getting the fancy stuff you see others have, but like weddings if you don’t make the average (or higher than average) bucks you can’t expect the average (or higher than average) party.  It’s no one else’s responsibility to subsidize your luxury parties you want to host.  I started saving and planning for that party 9 months in advance.

Post # 21
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Busy bee

I almost hope her party flops and no one considers trying this again. 

Post # 22
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Where I live, standard etiquette says you don’t throw parties in your own honor, period. If someone else doesn’t volunteer to host, you don’t have one, no matter what the occasion: bridal shower; baby shower; birthday party, retirement party etc etc.

Post # 23
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2019 - USA

annabeth929 :  WTF. Really??? I can’t even with this woman. A birthday (which happens literally every year) isn’t something you charge people to attend. If she can’t afford to host it, she either needs to have less people or do something cheaper. That all seems ridiculous to me. 

Post # 24
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Buzzing bee

annabeth929 :  hahahha omg that is hilarious!! Kindof hoping she learns a HUGE lesson from this and no one shows up. 

Post # 25
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - City, State

ewwwwno

Post # 26
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Bumble bee

I just find that so tacky.  No thanks.

Post # 27
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Worker bee

Ppl need to learn to live within their means. At 50 she should know that. If she wants a big bash, she should pay up. No money or dont want to pay? buy a cupcake and relax in a bathtub, being glad to live one more day and not having to keep up with social media. It’s just sad that bc of the way she went about this, she might throw this great party with live band etc and all those expenses and no one shows up.

Post # 28
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Worker bee

julies1949 :  wow I kinda find this sad. I really don’t care if someone wants to celebrate themselves w/o making me pay or inconveniencing me otherwise. I mean life is short! But I get that other cultures / groups have different customs.

Post # 29
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

What band tho? Might be worth the 50$ if it’s a great band lol.

Post # 30
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Sugar bee

People seem not to understand what it means to host a party. Totally classless. At 50 she should know better.

kiram :  There are tons of ways to have a special birthday that don’t involve charging your friends admission. She probably feels that she “deserves” this extravaganza. The world is full of people who think they deserve expensive things but can’t afford them. Their usual solution is to make other people pay.

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