Post # 31
littlelonelyman2018 : She’s cheating. Leave, and seek out some therapy. Your last two relationships have been rife with “suspicious behavior” and will end badly. This will surely take an emotional toll, and leave you open to insecurity and mistrust in the future.
Work with a therapist, find balance, get your head to a good place, and only then start dating again.
Post # 32
Not sure if this is the same girfriend you thought was cheating 9 months ago? Actually whether it is, or whether it’s now a new one who you also think is cheating , ( she probably is from the info in this thread) it’s not good.
If the former then it seems like a good idea to end it and save yourself more pain. If the latter , well, it’s either seriously bad luck or I think pehaps some therapy to see why you go for cheating women.
And I know you said your screename is not representative of you ( I chose one that can be misinterpreted too, it was meant to be elderberry lol ) I would still ask yourself why you chose it from all the song lyrics you might have chosen.
Post # 33
i am sending you virtual hugs!!
how did it go after that very awkward encounter when you read the messages? What is your plan? Remember that here you have a community that will listen to you and give you honest opinions, anytime. However, if yoy feel lonely (which is normal) try to find a “real life” support system (a friend, family member, etc)
remember that even though we might sound judgy at times we are a pack and you can come for advice whenever, we will be here.
As other bees said, I would find some kind of therapy, counselling, etc. You explained you picked your name froma song; however, everytime I loved a song it had a deeper meaning, ie I loved “she will be loved” by maroon five, and only after I was completely dettached from an abussive boyfriend I understood I was not a “beauty queen of only 18” I was identifying with the song for a lot more reasons….so I think that a professional would be a great option now that you are moving on!! He/she will help you realize how much you are worth and next time things will ne easier because you know you are q catch!
good luck and keep us posted!
Post # 35
Oh wow, this really sucks. I’m so sorry to hear that.
Call your friends or family or just someone who you trust so you can talk with them and have emotional support. You don’t need to go through this alone.
Post # 36
I only read a few people’s posts, so sorry if my post is redundant. I don’t know your history either. How close are you guys? My fiance would usually tell me everything that’s going on at work. He would tell me if he is doing grocery after work. He would usually tell me where he is going. Sometimes I ask him if there is anything happening in general? Yea, I don’t know why she wouldn’t tell you that she is having lunch or meeting with someone. It may not be important or relevant, but little things like this my fiance would tell me about. If he is going to see his parents, he would tell me. If he is planning to go shopping, he would tell me. It does make it sound like she is hiding this from you or keeping it a secret. And is her paycheck more than normal since she is working that many hours more hours now per week? How often is her overtime? Don’t assume, but yea, little things like that she wouldn’t want to share with you, why? I am sure you tell her where you go when you go out. Is that lunch/meeting even part of work? The best thing to do is just talk to her. Maybe you can tell her that you feel insecure and in hopes that she can make you feel secure. Good luck!