(Closed) Is she just fishing for an invitation? (sorry, it’s long)

posted 8 years ago in Family
  • poll: Do you think she only got in contact so I'll invite her to our wedding?
    Yes, she is fishing. : (8 votes)
    38 %
    She might be sincere; feel her out and see how it goes : (10 votes)
    48 %
    No, I think seeing your STD at her mom or brother's house made her think of you so she got in touch : (3 votes)
    14 %
  • Post # 4
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    251 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Her timing seems suspect but no point in blowing her off now, that does not mean you have to invite her though. You already have your list made and decided on.

    Post # 5
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    326 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Regardless of if she wants to reconnect or just be invited to the wedding, I think you should respond to her.  If you don’t, you are treating her no better than the way she has treated you in the past, and I am a firm believer in the golden rule.  If she IS fishing for an invitation, she will most likely bring it up to you and you can choose how to respond from that point.  However, if I were you, I would not bring up your wedding to her if you are not prepared to invite her.

    Post # 6
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    3866 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I’m with the others: she said to contact her, so… contact her!  chat with her, catch up, but don’t worry about the invite until you get some regrets.  If she pushes, well, you’ve got your answer and you can reply however you want… including not sending an invite at all.

    until then, take it one message/text/whatever at a time and enjoy being in touch with her again. 

    also, don’t forget she might get the info that Mike has been invited, so that could cause some potential drama from her….

    either way, keep the topic neutral when you DO talk; skip everything wedding related (other than the perfuctuary “thank you” to her sending the congrats)….

    Post # 7
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    3709 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    She may be sincere so just see how things develop. I wouldn’t change the plans that you have already set as far as who made the “A” list though. If she asks about the wedding, be as noncommittal as possible. Also, when you send out invites, you may want to make sure you add specific names as she might think that she is included on her parents invite.

    Post # 8
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    351 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I would catch up with her to see if she is true to her word. If so, give her the invite. If she doesn’t show or plays fake and never calls again, I would find it acceptable to pass on an invite.

    Post # 9
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    1158 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Reconnect with her but don’t invite her…lol

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