posted 10 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Is the used dress seller just "pulling my leg?"

    Yes, she probably doesn't even have the dress anymore!

    Maybe...she may just be a busy person and unable to respond to e-mails or make calls.

    No! Wait for her to contact you in regard to the dress!

  • Post # 3
    4765 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Can’t u call her?  If it’s your DREAM dress drive there and knick on her door, you don’t have that much to lose.

    Post # 4
    2853 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I would just consider that you might have to deal with further flaking-out through the rest of the sale. If there’s a question but you still want to proceed, I would try to recover/redirect your deposit from the shop asap, and then spend some time chasing down your dream dress.

    You didn’t say how you felt about the Allure compared to the dream dress?

    Post # 5
    1842 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    It does seem to me that she’s playing around, although it makes no sense why someone would do that.  I actually had the same experience with two different sellers when I was looking for a used dress and it was extremely frustrating.  Neither one of them panned out and I ended up buying a new one elsewhere.  It makes you wonder why they would even play games like that, but people do.

    Post # 6
    4883 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Have you actually tried Michelle on? You may end up hating the way it looks on you. 

    Honestly if you’re happy with the Allure I would just go with that.  Sometimes dealing with resellers/individuals is more pain than its worth.

    Post # 8
    10354 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Selling and buying things over the internet from individuals is a total crapshoot. People are flakey. They stop communicating and drop off the face of the planet. Have you ever dealt with Craigslist? Same deal.

    Don’t waste a 50% deposit on a different dress. Your post-wedding self will be PISSED that you wasted all that money for a dress you are wearing for 8 hours.

    Post # 9
    3788 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

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    @crayfish: It’s true.

    Also, you put down a deposit on another dress, so you were already getting over the Maggie. Just because she’s back in touch doesn’t mean you still need to be interested. You sort of made your decision by putting the deposit on the Allure.

    Edit: regarding you poll, I don’t know if she’s playing games or not, but I still wouldn’t wait around for it and lose my deposit.

    Post # 11
    269 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I chose the “maybe” option, but just from my own recent experiences I would go with the Allure. I personally am getting really tired of people not returning simple phone calls or emails unless they actually have a good reason.

    IF you want to keep an open mind and she contacts you, I’d simply tell her the deal. “I understand you may be busy and haven’t had the chance to respond to my emails and requests for pictures before I drive 2 hours to meet you. This dress is my dream dress, but honestly at this point I’ve had to consider other options, and I’d need to negotiate a lower price to make it worth my while.

    And see if she bites the bullet. Who knows…maybe if you’re a bit tougher on her maybe she’d sell it cheaper and it might be worth losing your other deposit if you liked it that much?

    Post # 13
    4496 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    It doesn’t sound like she’s serious about selling. If I wanted to sell my dress, and I had an interested buyer, I’d be doing everything possible to make sure I sealed the deal. Her actions make no sense. Maybe she doesn’t even have the dress. Honestly, who knows. 

    I would forget about buying the dress from her, commit to the dress you put the deposit down on, and not look back. 

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