Post # 1
Hi all! Before joining Wedding Bee right after I got engaged, I always assumed that any engagement ring I saw (unless it was a colored gemstone) was a diamond. I didn’t know that moissanite or Asha or any other the other choices existed. It almost sehs on these boards that simulant/synthetic diamonds may be actually more prevalent than diamonds.
So, my question is, is this a thing outside of Wedding Bee? Am I just hopelessly naive in thinking all sparkly stones around me are diamonds? Just curious. For what it’s worth, I think all stones (diamond or other) can be beautiful…I’m honestly just curious.
Post # 2
Please, not another simulant v diamond debate 🙁
Post # 3
I had never even heard of moissanite until I joined WeddingBee! The only people I know IRL who don’t have diamond rings have a gemstone rings. Either it’s not common in my area (TX) or people here like to keep their synthetic rings a secret!
Post # 4
I have only had one conversation with a friend about her ring, my friend was married for 15 years and divorcing during the time my Darling Husband and I were wedding planning. We were talking about her ring and she was wanting to get a new freedom ring type of thing and she mentioned that her marriage rings were cubic zirconia.
It makes tons of sense once you get out ring shopping. Diamonds are a huge expense and for many I’m sure not worth it.
Post # 5
christabel: Not talking about the merits of either. I think they are both gorgeous. I’m just wondering about how prevalent they are. Honest curiosity here. 🙂
Post # 6
KetelOne: I voted no, but then remembered I do know someone with one. I actually never liked the look of her “diamond”, and it wasn’t until later that I realized it was fake. This was 6 years ago or so, so there r other options now. And I’m not sure if she really got a quality simulant to begin with.
Regardless, I think diamonds will always be the norm, but good simulants will become more common for ppl that want bigger stones that they may not normally have been able to afford in diamond prices.
But really, does it matter? everybody should get what they want and that makes sense for them 🙂
Post # 7
They’re actually not the majority on the bee at all. Everytime theres a centerstone poll it’s diamonds by a long shot and I think that’s reflective of women in general. In fact I bet there’s a bigger percentage of sims on the bee than “in the wild”.
I think sim owners or those interested are very vocal on the bee because there’s so little info out there “in real life” at this point! So people get info/reviews/pics on forums like this.
Post # 8
I agree with the previous posters. Diamonds are far more common in real life. People learn about alternative options through forums like this one. I own an amora gem ultra and when I tell people what it is they have no clue what I’m talking about.
Post # 9
- Wedding: garden/backyard - July 9, 2016
My brother couldn’t afford a diamond in the size his wife demanded so hers is a cz. It’s massive and (for his salary/their lifestyle) looks out of place. I get asked about it – small town nosy people!- and always tell people to ask them if they really need to know. She loves it which is all that matters…but I do wonder as she has lied about it being real before. Oh well, their business not mine! But that is the only simulant I know of off hand!
Post # 10
MrsBuesleBee: I couldn’t agree more. I also think it’s “safe” here to admit u have a simulant, whereas ppl may not be so vocal in the real world (bc, let’s be honest, ppl can be judgmental and catry).
Post # 11
I think it could become more normal in the USA to have alternate clear gemstones for e-rings, especially since the lab-created sparklies are easier to come by, as technology improves. In other countries that I’ve lived, clear gemstone e-rings were not the norm. Where colored gemstones are typical, I suspect there will be more lab-created purchases; in places where gemstones are not customary, I’d think that technology will little impact their “engagement token” sales.
Improvements in the labs aren’t the only influence, surely. Globalization has to play a part, too, since more and more countries host manufacturers, supppliers, merchants, etc., and, let’s face it, we can shop at home in our pajamas and ship to anywhere.
Yes, interesting question, indeed.
Post # 12
KetelOne: *eye twitch*
Moissanite is not a diamond simulant. While some bees may “pass them off”, I’m pretty vocal about mine with people to educate anyone who is interested. Lab grown, yes, fake diamond? No.
Ashas/CZ IS a diamond simulant.
Post # 13
- Wedding: September 2017 - Red Rock Canyon, Las Vegas, NV
I had no idea about moossanite, Amora or Asha before this place. I do think that diamonds will always be top dog but it’s great that there are options for people who want clear stones. I could never afford a diamond the size that I chose in Moissanite. I’ll call it my space diamond and when people say huh I’ll explain with pride. Science is cool.
Post # 14
I think that the simulants, particularly the Amora, Asha, or plain CZ are more common than people who aren’t looking at rings now realize. I have two friends who I know had simulants and frankly, whenever I see someone walking around with a big clear stone, unless I know they are loaded with money, I assume it isn’t a diamond. I don’t think simulants or moissanite are “the new norm” but I think the expense of diamonds and quality, societal push for a big stone, and increasing quality of simulants is leading more people to choose a simulant.
Post # 15
KetelOne: I’d never heard of moissy, asha or amora gem until after the bee. Like you I think they’re all beautiful but not for me. I wanted a colored gem stone