Post # 1
I wonder about this sometimes… Is Fiance my best friend? For me, it depends on what definition of best friend we’re talking about.
If you’re talking about the always there for you, loves you unconditionally, makes you a better person, supports you and your decisions, and isn’t afraid to tell you when you’re not making good choices kind of best friend, yes.
If you’re talking about the always tell them absolutely everything for no fear of judgement, eat popcorn and paint our fingernails kind of best friend, no.
I don’t tell Fiance everything, I don’t leave out important stuff, but does he care that the mean girl at work said XYZ, not in the same way my Maid/Matron of Honor does.
Is your SO/FI/DH your best friend? How do you define best friend?
Post # 3
My FH is my best friend for sure. I tell him everything, no matter how insignificant it seems. We enjoy most of the same things, are never bored together, and are mostly together. There is no one I trust more. I love that he is my best friend.
Post # 4
My FH is my bestfriend but I dont think I would call him that if somebody asked specifically who my bf is. I have my girly besties but he is the one I tell absolutley everything to. He sometimes asks me why I bother to tell him certain things because I literally tell him everything. lol. We have tons of fun together and love to hang out but if you asked me who my bestfriend is I would say “soandso” (my girlie bestfriend). I would probably never respond by saying FH. I think that they fall into two seperate categories but obviously the FH will probabaly be around longer than any friend I have.
Post # 5
He’s my fiance, which is different than a best friend, as I see it. It doesn’t mean he’s more or less important, it’s just different. This is the man I’m going to spend the rest of my life with, side by side, whose children I will (hopefully) have and help raise. That’s not the same sort of bond you have with someone you’ve known since high school and can eat popcorn and paint toenails with.
Post # 6
My SO is my bestfriend, I can tell him anything and he always has my back. Even though we don’t watch the same shows, sometimes he will watch them just to make me happy.
Post # 7
FH is 110% my very best friend!! He’s the only person I can tell EVERYTHING, whether it’s gripes about family and friends or gripes about him. He’s my best friend because he doesn’t try to stand behind me or in front me, but he stands beside me.
Post # 8
My Fiance is one of my best friends. I can talk to him about almost anything without judgement. We were friends before we fell in love and our love just made us closer.
Post # 9
I’ve never really been a person to classify someone as “my best friend”… particularly since I graduated from high school. But I would say he is probably not. He’s definitely one of them but I agree with pp who said that fiance is just different than best friend. There is more at stake in our relationship and that makes our relationship more complex. He’s the person I can share all of my hopes and dreams and fears with. My best friend is the person i can share all of my hopes, dreams, fears, and the crap Fiance does that annoys me. 🙂
Post # 10
My Fiance is not my best friend. He is the love of my life, but not my BFF.
Post # 11
I used to think he wasn’t but now we’re even closer and I would have to say yes he is my best friend! I used to think it was super cheesy and your husband would be your best friend but now I can’t really see it any other way.
Post # 12
Well, my hubby is one of my best friends. I have my female best friend, male best friend, and hubby is on another level of friend. I tell him everything whereas I tell my other best friends parts of things. They all know pieces of me and he has the most pieces.
Post # 13
Agreed! I couldn’t have worded it better. I love him to death, but it’s a different love than the love I have for my best friends.
Post # 14
Yup, he is my BFF. We got off to a slow start, partly his gentlemanly nature but mostly because when I met FH, I was in the final stages of a nasty divorce from an abuser. He took me out on nice dates but never pressured me for anything more for a solid 8 mos.
We’re older than most of the couples here & that probably is part of it. My ex swept me off my feet, it was intense & I think for a long time I was disappointed in any man who couldn’t do the same.
Fortunately, I got over that.
On our first date, FH & I spent hours over lunch talking about current events–we are both news junkies–I found out quickly how similar our views & core values are.
That’s a good basis for friendship that eventually evolved into more. And, yes, I can totally be myself with FH & have on a number of occasions. After 6 years, there are not many illusions left . . .
Definitely my best bud. At this part of my life, I think that’s good for me.
Post # 15
My man is my best friend. Though I understand what is meant by he is “one” of my best friends . . . . because although he is my BEST friend forever and I plan to have him by my side till the end, I also have a couple “best” friends in my girlfriends. And it’s just different somehow. But I think that’s normal. It’s not going to be the same when you have two women, versus a man and a woman. Two women can vent easily to each other as friends, and have a response they seek in another woman. Venting to my man is great, he’s a good listener usually and very empathetic most times . . . but it’s just different! Celebrate the difference!
Viva la diference! haha or however you spell it. 🙂
Post # 16
My husband is my best friend in a totally different way than my female best friends are.
I personally believe that you girl friends are on a completely different page than your SO. You can be as close as you want, and share all you want with your SO, but girls know girls in a way only girls can know girls, and guys know guys in a way only guys can know guys.
In my opinion, it’s like comparing apples to oranges – my husband and my best friends are on totally different levels. They cannot be compared. One isn’t better, or “bester” than the other – just different!