(Closed) Is some hesitancy normal?

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Buzzing Beekeeper

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IowaDDS13:  totally normal. We’ve been trying for a long time and when we went in for our first IUI I had another moment of “wait – for real? are we doing this?” just like the first month I was off the pill. My husband had the same feelings and in the car before the appointment I asked him if he was ready for the chance that this might finally be the month and he said “nope – but I’m excited so let’s do it anyways!” hahahaa. 

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Bumble bee
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IowaDDS13:  Tooooootally normal. At leat, I hope it is, because we both went through it!

Pulling the plug on birth control was only half as terrifying/thrilling as getting the positive pregnancy test, though, hahah.

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Bumble bee

Totally normal. I’ve been wanting to start NTNP before we were married and the night of wedding, DTD…DH asked “so you wanna make babies?” And I completely chickened out and told him not to do it. I was caught off guard that it was actually a possibility now. 

One month later (yesterday), we started our TTC journey and we’re excited! 

(I’m in iowa, too!) 

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Bumble bee

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IowaDDS13:  I’m not a Hawkeye fan, originally from WI. ๐Ÿ˜‰I’m in DBQ though.

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Same for me! I freaked out the first time I POAS, even though I was 99.99% positive I was not pregnant, still the idea was terrifying. I know if I ACTUALLY get a BFP I’ll be in panc mode again!

But then I think what it would be like if in a year from now we still don’t have a kid and then I’m reminded I better start getting busy ๐Ÿ˜›

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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Yep totally normal! And then when you start POAS you start freaking out a bit too. And then again when you get the positive test. ๐Ÿ˜Š 

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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IowaDDS13:  The closer we get to the wedding the more it starts to sink in. I wake up having panic attacks. It’s awful. Like what if we buy a house and something major goes wrong with it? What if we have a kid and lose our jobs? Or just all the things that could go wrong. It’s finally starting to sink in after like 10 years of preventing pregnancy. lol 

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We’ve been on the fence about TTC and generally having kids forever.  DH and I have been married almost four years and dated for five before that, so, we’re slow movers.  He’s older, and basically declared that it was now or never and I hesitantly picked now.  We’re two cycles in, and I’m still totally freaked out about it.  We also just adopted a puppy, I love her to pieces, but I’m not sure I’m even raising her right, how am I going to handle a child?!

No real words of wisdom here, but you’re totally not alone.  I’m just trying to get out of my own head and go with the flow. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Completely normal – in fact, I find it weird that some people don’t feel nervous when undertaking something so huge, important, and permanently life-altering! 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

The whole experience is overwhelming, even from the very beginning when you decide to start trying. I was shaking like a leaf when I took my first pregnancy test and we were itching to be pregnant! 

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Busy bee

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IowaDDS13:  anoher vote for normal! Ive been on board with the idea of having a baby, previously CFBC(!) for about a year now. Earlier this year we really started talking about it being a real option this year. Now both of us are in a place of , “why wait?” 

Here’s to hoping for lots of baby-making and some BFPs all aroubd๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿป๐Ÿ˜€

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - Sussex, UK

We’re going to start trying later this year. I’m freaked out about it though.  I love travelling and freedom in general so it will be a big adjustment. I’ve never had baby fever but my friends all seem to! When my best friend got a BFP the first month of TTC she called me straight away and was crazy excited. I think if we get a BFP whether after a month or 12 months of TTC I’ll still be scared. 

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