(Closed) Is it still acceptable for the woman to stay at home?

posted 7 years ago in Married Life
Post # 2
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Bumble bee

That depends.  Did both husband and wife will it together?  This should be the only answer that matters. 

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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jenni2000:  Yes.

Post # 4
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Helper bee

I think a lot of people think in terms of now vs. The future. Yes, they may be able to live comfortably now, but without two retirement accounts and two people collecting SSI retirement may be a little rough… and that is a significant portion of our lives.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

From my perspective, I can’t really imagine why she would want to, but lucky for her, my perspective does not matter 😉

Post # 6
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Blushing bee

Not in NY (downstate) unless you are independently wealthy.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Of course! I’m not actually sure why anyone has to be “educated.” I don’t really know what that means. Everyone has a different course and takes different paths. I think in the modern world it’s ok for women–and men for that matter–to do ANYTHING they want within their marriage. The only thing that matters, In My Humble Opinion, is whether both partners agree to the arrangement and remain happy.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Depends on future plans and savings.

Post # 10
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Helper bee

Like…socially acceptable? I don’t see any evidence that shows otherwise.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Who am I to determine what’s acceptable FOR ANOTHER COUPLE? I don’t care what anyone does. Personally, it’s not for me unless we were extremely wealthy. Even then I would have to do something like have a business from home or volunteer. 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

To be honest, I would think its weird. But all the women I know work so my view is probably skewed and to clarify being a Stay-At-Home Mom is different to me than just staying at home without kids.

  • This reply was modified 6 years, 6 months ago by knpswp.
Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

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jenni2000:  I think moreso than finding it “lazy,” I think of it as a risk I’m not willing to take. Meaning, opting entirely out of being able to support myself in the long run is not acceptable personally. And even if I was some sort of heiress, I would be bored as hell without a means of contributing every day. But again, everyone’s mileage varies, and I think if it’s an acceptable risk to you and your spouse, and a mutual decision, then the societal attitudes should not matter. 

Also, stay at home wife and stay at home mom are different things. Don’t ever let someone throw shade on you for staying home with kids.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

I am sure a lot of people react poorly to hearing this. Probably out of jealousy, or some other weird thoughts. As long as YOU are happy, thats all that matters. People will always judge you, no matter what you choices. Don’t put stock in what other people think about you, it doesn’t do any good. OWN it. Its your life! Make the best out of it! 

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