Post # 1
Just curious… There is an old saying that I hear that a girl wants to/is going to marry a man that’s like her father. Is it really true? Does your Fiance really act like your dad in disguise (or father figure)? Honestly I didn’t realize it at first but the situation is true for me. Is it true for you?
Post # 3
My husband and father are…. so very different in a lot of ways and similar in other ways.
Post # 4
I’m sure there are some similarities, but for the most part they are very different people.
Post # 5
My SO is pretty much the polar opposite of my dad. I love my dad a lot, but we’ve had our share of problems over the years…
However, my future sister in law’s SO is exactly like her dad. It’s pretty funny.
Post # 6
I would say this is true for me, to an extent. D has the same sense of humor that my father does, but unlike my father, D is willing to help out around the house with cooking and cleaning, etc. So I guess I got the best of both worlds!!
Post # 7
My Fiance is SO different from my dad. And I’m glad for it.
Post # 8
Darling Husband is so opposite of my dad, but he is so like my grandfather.
Post # 9
I remeber my dad always telling me this. My dad and Darling Husband are so different. If anything DH is like my mom’s dad.
Post # 10
I think if you look hard enough at any two people, you can find enough similarities to make this statement true, and you can also find enough dissimilarities to make this statement false.
I’ve also heard the statement made about men marrying women who are like their mothers, so it’s not just a gender-specific generalization.
That said, our parents are the first people with whom we bond, and their personality traits are the only thing we know till we’re past that age where our personality really forms. So it’s pretty normal and natural that we equate our parents’ values and personalities as being normal or desirable, and seek out a mate with some of those same qualities. As an example, my dad was a very hard worker with a good work ethic, and I grew up thinking that it was the norm for everyone (not just men) to work hard. I developed a really strong work ethic myself, and find a poor work ethic to be a very unattractive quality in any person, but especially a mate.
Post # 11
For me it wasn’t true, but if my Fiance is similar to anyone in my family it would have to be my older brother. They are both very family oriented, christian, and enjoy many of the same things.
Post # 12
I see so much of my father in my Fiance. They are alike in so many ways that it’s almost scary. I never planned to fall in love with someone just like my dad, it just happened that way.
Post # 13
The only thing my husband has in common with my dad is height and body type. My dad kept to himself and wasn’t into family functions; whereas my husband is the exact opposite.
I don’t believe that saying at all.
Post # 14
Well, it makes sense that usually parents are our primary role models, and to a large extent they define the qualities we look up to – and look for in a partner.
Post # 15
It was true for me with my abusive ex-husband.
It is not true any more for me with my wonderful Darling Husband, he is the complete opposite of my father in every way. Thank God.
Post # 16
My Darling Husband and my father are completely different. My XH and my father are very similar people though and they still seem to get along well… unfortunately.