Post # 1
I was at work last night (retail, I was on cash), and a lovely customer was looking at my left hand, but I pretended not to notice. A minute later I see her oh-so-subtlety look at her friend, and nod in the direction of my ring, to get her to look too. She obviously noticed that I saw her doing it, and said to me “is that your actual engagement ring?”. What is that supposed to mean?? “Uhhh, yep, it sure is…”
I’m feeling a little insulted at this point, and probably had a strange look on my face, because she followed up with “How OLD are you??”.
I’m 24, will be 25 in a few months, and yes, I realize that people think I’m 19, thank you. I smiled at her and said “old enough!”, because honestly, it is none of your business, lady!
A few months ago, when I went in to try on wedding dresses for the first time, the shop owner asked if I was there to try on prom dresses! Commmonnn, let’s not jump to conclusions! How embarrassing.
I am seriously worried about the reactions that I will get when I have kids in a couple of years, because I do look years younger than my age… I can see the judging-eyes already!!
Anyone else look younger than their age? Any unnecessary comments from judgmental strangers that you’d like to share? Common, make me feel better! Haha
Post # 3
@PermaStudent: I haven’t been judged on my engagement, fortunately. I’d probably lose all sense of tact and say something quite unladylike.
I’m 26 now, but a couple years ago, I got carded buying Bridesmaids. Yes, the movie. And the cashier was all snarky about it. He legit goes, “I need to see your ID. You have to be 17 to buy this.” I said, “Dude, I’m 24. But here’s my ID.”
Thanks for thinking I look young, but seriously. Carded for buying a movie???
Post # 4
when I was pregnant with my daughter I got tons of nasty looks, I think because people thought i was a teen mom! (I was 23 at the time)I also get lots of comments on how I’m too young to have a kid and when I tell people my age (27 now) I get a lot of ” you look younger”. mostly this happens when I’m not wearing makeup and junning around in jeans and t-shirts, which was most of the time, since I’ve made an effort to dress more like a “grown-up” I get it a lot less.
Post # 5
Yep! I get this all the time. I’m 25 and look SUPER young. Like high school age. I have a babyface and tend to wear “teenage” type clothes, so I assume that’s where it comes from. [Cute jeans in light washes, cute frilly tops, hoodies – I love anything PINK!].
I recently got ID’d in a sex shop.. you had to be 18 to get in! Really?!
She was like, “WOW! Babyface!”.
Post # 6
@PermaStudent: I was going on a trip with my parents last year and had to get passports. we went to the clerks office and the lady said to me ” we’ll take care of you first since you’re a minor…how old are you? 12?” WHAAAAT! 12?! No lady, I’m 25. Completely not wedding related but I still was floored.
And another time, I went to buy cigarettes and the lady asked for my ID. I had the ID that people under 21 have to get to if they are under 21 (they are vertical rather than horizontal….because I turned 21 on the day the BMV was closed so had to renew it before) ANYWAY…..she asked for my ID and she couldn’t find the birthday on it. I pointed out to look beside my picture because it says “under 21 until 1/7/2007” because I couldnt remember off the top of my head where it was. I figured that would be easy enough because you have to be at least 18 to buy smokes and it was 2010 when this happen. She says to me “I don’t care if you’re over 21….I want to know if you’re over 18” FACEPALM!
Post # 7
@KJA00: Your post literally just made me spit coffee all over my computer! How do you mistake 25 for TWELVE?! Seriously, was she blind?? Hahaha brutal.
Glad I’m not alone ladies! Haha
Post # 8
When I was in college, so we are talking 19ish, 20ish, I got carded to go to a R rated movie, out of the bunch of friends I was with. I was like really WTF I am over the age of 17 you moron…
Post # 9
I’m 30 and get mistaken for 22-23 all the time. I had a sales rep at my door last week, I was in yoga pants and a sweater when I answered the door. He asked to speak to the home owner to which I replied I was and he asked if I was sure “my mom or dad weren’t home.” I started laughing and told him I’d have to call and see if they were, they live about an hour away from me. I get carded all the time when I buy alcohol. Where I live the legal drinking age is 19 and if you look under 25 they are required to card, same with casino’s.
Post # 10
@KJA00: “She says to me “I don’t care if you’re over 21….I want to know if you’re over 18” HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA….WOW!
Post # 11
I’m 29 and get carded sometimes too. I got it really bad at a local casino where he grabbed my shoulder on the way in and made a huge deal about “anyone under 25 gets asked for ID”. He was so rude about it so I grabbed two pieces of ID out of my wallet and said, “see, I’m over 18 and 25, oh and those kids who just walked in, I used to babysit one of them and he’s only 17″
Post # 12
Oh yeah I will be 40 this year and I STILL get carded for buying a drink!
Post # 13
Honestly, I’m 27 and people think I’m 17ish all the time. Plus, I am only 4’10” so from behind I look like a kid, hahaha. It was super annoying when I was 18 and looked 14, but honestly you are going to love it when you are 40 and look 25. I used to get annoyed, but now I LOVE it when people think I’m younger than I really am. My mom is 47 and looks about 28-30 and she loves it.
I have a full time job, but last year I got a seasonal weekend job in retail to save some extra money since we were about to buy a house. People looked at my ring ALL the time and asked how old I was. I really didn’t mind though. A regular customer asked me once, “so are you starting college in the fall?” and I said, “oh, no. I already graduated college a few years ago.” He looked shocked. I honestly just take it as a compliment.
@GonnaBeAFind: When I answer the phone people ask to talk to my mom or dad all the time, haha. I have a ‘small’ voice so I sound young. Once a telemarketer refused to talk to me because he thought I was lying about my age. Works for me, I didn’t want to buy anything from him anyway 🙂
Post # 14
@KJA00: I can relate to the cashier from your second story. I never know where to look when looking at out of state ID’s and hate when people say “well it says younger than 21 before…” I dont care about that, I care about seeing the birth date so I can type it in to the register.
Post # 15
I look a little younger than I am.. I never got rude comments about being engaged, but get rude comments about the *color* of my diamond instead (it’s blaack)
Post # 16
@Sassygrn: I also have to card everyone for alcohol sales. Even if you’re 90!