(Closed) Is the bride allowed to invite people to a shower that she is not hosting?

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
2983 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Can you just ask the ladies who are hosting the shower to invite your groom’s family as well? Typically the bride does not do the inviting herself (IME), but rather provides the hosts with a guest list. 

Post # 4
274 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

i think everyone agrees: THE BRIDE IS ALLOWED TO DO ANYTHING! 😉

Post # 5
7208 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

Personally, I would ask. 

Post # 7
3688 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Typically the shower hostesses will ask the bride for a guest list, and part of that is to make sure that only people that are invited to the wedding will be invited to the shower. If you think that this will be a fairly large, informal kind of event, I’d probably ask one of the women if it’s okay if you invite your fiance’s family because of the circumstances.

Post # 9
1022 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@VanillaGrace:  personally around here there is 2, one for each side (bride and gruoom) but the parents of the bride and groom and grandmothers go to both.

Post # 10
1430 posts
Bumble bee

When I threw showers I always got the guest list from the Bride on who she wanted to invite since it is for her. BUT for a church shower I think it is different and limited to people who attend that church. If there are other people- family and friends who would like to celebrate but don’t go to your church I think they need to have a seperate shower. Numbers add up quick..But thats just how I have seen things done. It is kind of like a work shower. If my co-workers wants to have a shower I would even think to invite my family and other friends..


Post # 11
133 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

My bridesmaids asked me for guest lists, and I asked my Mom if there was anyone she wanted to invite, etc. before giving my list to my bridesmaids.  You should definitely feel free to invite members of the groom’s family to your shower, it’s a nice gesture and I know my FI’s family really appreciated being invited to mine.


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