Post # 1
In the church, I will stand on the left. Then at the reception, must I still sit on the left?
The left side of the room is the more high traffic area, whereas the right side of the room is nicer (lol!). I want the bride guests to sit on the right side of the room and have the groom’s guests sit on the left side…yes, I’m that anal about things.
At our “head” table, which isn’t really a head table, but whatever……can I sit on the right?
Post # 3
At my FSIL’s wedding, she stood on the left during the ceremony. But once we got into the reception, she was on his right side as well as her side of the family. I don’t personally see anything wrong with this
Post # 4
At the reception you can sit wherever you want. No one will notice or care at that point. There is no tradition or rule stating what side of the room the guests sit on at the reception either.
Post # 5
In Jewish ceremonies, the bride is always on the right. And I’ve never heard of any particular requirements at the reception.
Post # 6
Hmmm I was on the left at the ceremony, but during the reception I actually sat on the right. We had a sweetheart table and we just walked up to it and sat wherever. I really didn’t even think about if there was a certain side I should be on. No weird looks though, so it must have been normal for me to sit on the right side at the reception 🙂
Post # 7
May I suggest that you mix your guests at the reception, especially if one side of the room is nicer than the other. Favoring one side of your new family is not a good way to start your marriage and it is good for your family and friends to meet each other.
Post # 8
@tnason: Thanks! But nope!
Post # 9
Well, the bride is on different sides depending on religion (in Jewish ceremonies, for example, the bride stands on the right). Sit wherever you want at the reception!
Post # 10
this “issue” never even occurred to me.
Post # 11
@bloodgo1: I’m selling that veil! I fell in love with another one.. 🙁 boo hoo!
Post # 12
I don’t think it really matters what side on sit on at the reception…especially since it’s probably the switching of one spot to the right or left. I would sit where you want to and no one would know any different.
Post # 13
At the ceremony, you enter as an unmarried maiden, and there *is* a “bride’s side” and a “groom’s side”. By the reception you are a married matron, and you and your husband are joined into one untied family. There are no more sides.
Therefore (according to the old tradition) at the reception guests are seated mingled together. The hostess and her helpers are supposed to be introducing the various guests to one another and helping them create new acquaintanceships. Traditionally, people from both families are seated at the same table, introduced to one another, and left to develope those acquaintanceships.
Now, you don’t have to mingle the families if that doesn’t conform to your particular philosophy of marriage and hospitality, but it DOES mean that *tradition* will NOT enforce the notion of “bride’s side on the left”. Feel free to set up your tables as you see fit.