(Closed) Is the expression, you marry your dad true?

posted 7 years ago in Family
  • poll: Is your fiance/husband just like your dad? (pick more than one)
    They have the same personality. : (70 votes)
    10 %
    They have share some personal traits. : (275 votes)
    38 %
    They are EXACT opposites of each other. : (96 votes)
    13 %
    They could pass for family. : (19 votes)
    3 %
    They look kinda similar. : (69 votes)
    10 %
    They look NOTHING alike. (different races, etc,) : (187 votes)
    26 %
  • Post # 47
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    True for me too! H2B and my dad both have curly hair and noses on the slightly larger side! Both are strong characters, kind and hardworking. They are very different in some ways too though. My dad and I have very similar personalities so we used to clash a lot and still do sometimes but H2B is less willing to engage in pointless conflict.

    Post # 48
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    1009 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @engleman10513:  It can be true for some, but not all. About the only thing my Fiance and Dad have in common is having blue eyes, and a sarcastic sense of humor. The similarity ends there! 🙂

    Post # 49
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    1723 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 1998

    In general, people are attracted to what they know – like picking mates who resemble the father figures in their lives.

    My husband and I could – except for body size, height, etc. – probably pass for siblings (we’re both white, blue-eyed and blond-haired…it generally gets double looks). In that sense, it’s not shocking my husband might seem to be my dad’s kid too.

    They’re both similar in that they share a cheesy sense of humor, they’re both generally laidback, etc. The difference is that my dad is extremely passive – my husbnad will stand up for himself and challenge people.

    Post # 50
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    5282 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I actually think this is true for many of my friends, but for me personally, I married the 100% complete opposite of my dad.

    Post # 51
    Member
    1156 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @engleman10513:  Yes and no.  My SO and my dad are both family men, hard workers, the bread winner, and the “head of the household” so to speak.  They get along seemingly like they have known each other forever, and my SO could pass as family.  The only really big differences is age, and my dad is very conservative and my SO is very liberal.  So I would have to say yes more than no, all of the things I grew up with is what my SO wants to provide.  He is just open to more variations than my dad would be.

    Post # 53
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    114 posts
    Blushing bee

    Nope, for one thing I choose not to have a relationship with my father, a very outgoing, conservative (read: racist, homophobic, sexist), mean man who would like to be considered “macho”. He is also pretty tall and overweight, and white. Fiance is openminded, has a love of arts and literature, and is pretty introverted. He is also Canadian Korean. Some pretty big differences.

    Post # 54
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    9134 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    @engleman10513:  My first husband was nothing like my dad but he reminded me of my stepdad (who didn’t start dating my mom until I was 14 so it’s not like he raised me.)  My current Fiance reminds me a lot of my dad in personality and he definitely looks more like my dad than my ex husband.

    Post # 55
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    10363 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    That saying doesn’t come from how they look, it comes from their personality/relationship habits/communication style/etc.

    I’m lucky that I got that out of my system with the guy before my Darling Husband. I’m so grateful I married a little later and didn’t end up with the guy who was just like my dad.

    Post # 56
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    3400 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    My husband wouldn’t seem to other people to be much like my dad, but they are very much alike in personality & also values.

    My dad has worked physical labor his whole life for him own golf course contruction company, & he also farms.

    My husband is pursuing a “desk job” lol in PR or marketing.

    But, their personailities are very similar, & they have the same sense of humor & get along like father & son. My dad couldn’t love my husband any more if he tried, & same for my husband to my dad. Plus, they both have the same morals & values (I would never marry someone who differed from my dad in morals or religion)

    Although they don’t look extremely similar, I’m sure if they were in public someone might actually think they were father & son since their mannerisms are so similar.

    The only place they do definitely differ is in “supportiveness” as my dad is very vocal in being supportive & trying to make me feel better if I am sad etc.. where as my husband, bless his heart because he does try, acts like he is encountering an alien if I cry to him & want support &/or affection lol. But, he’s getting better.

    Post # 57
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    7369 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    HELL NO. My dad as much as loved him was a complete asshole. Him and my SO do not share ANY personality traits. I did that deliberately. But they are possibly the same skin tone, that is where any other similarities end. 

    Post # 58
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    4495 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    LOL lord I hope not. My dad is a dead beat, drug addict.

    Post # 59
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    401 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    They are the same person, I swear. The whole family cracks up about it: same mannerisms, same little quirks, absolutely everything. The weird thing is that my type (nerdy, super thin, serious) is exactly the opposite of my dad. I decided to take a chance on someone I wouldn’t normally date and now here we are!

    Post # 60
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    11519 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

    my dad and my FH don’t look at all alike (at least IMO) but they do have some similar personality traits.  I wouldn’t say i’m marrying my dad though (and he’s definitely not marrying his mom…the only things we have in common is a love of chatting!)

    Post # 61
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    52 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    oh wow! i hope not!!!! lol….

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