(Closed) Is the guest book a must? I wish people would stop giving them to me!

posted 11 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
494 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

hmmm…I don’t think a guest book is entirely necessary, but it is a nice thing to have.  Afterall, your family and friends probably want to leave you happy messages that you’ll enjoy reading someday!  I wasn’t going to have one originally because we are doing a small 20 person destination wedding at Disney…but instead decided I wanted one, just not the traditional kind…we are going to use a hardcover Disney fairy tale book as my guestbook – my guests will sign the margins with any well wishes and we can keep the book as a keepsake for us and any future kids 🙂

Maybe you can do something alternative as a guest book and it’ll mean more to you! Hah we certainly don’t need one though…try selling them on ebay!

Post # 4
2511 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

We didn’t use a guestbook. We had 2 different sizes of mat boards (to go inside picture frames) that people signed.

That way, it is both sentimental & useful (because I’m sure you will want to hang some wedding photos around your house 🙂

Post # 6
494 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

the mat board thing is a great idea.  We plan on having one for our at home reception when we get back for friends/family to sign that weren’t at the wedding.  They look really cool with your wedding picture in it!

Post # 7
1220 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

We’re not doing a guest book b/c I wouldn’t have a clue what to ever do with it other than set it somewhere to collect dust.  We dropped some cute postcards into our Out of Town bags and asked them to mail one to us with a memory of their trip to our Destination Wedding.  Doubt I’ll see even 20 of them, but at least with those I can throw in a photobook…or something.

Post # 8
83 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We did the same thing as Miss Sapphire.  We got back maybe half of them.  I don’t know if others got lost in the mail or were never sent.

Post # 9
1229 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

The answer to your question is: NO.  You do not have to have a guestbook.  To get married, you only need yourselves, a marriage license and an ordained person.  Everything else is just extra!  However, even if you don’t want a guest BOOK per se, you might want to consider some other medium to store your guests names and messages for you.

We had a very large framed (engagement) picture with a matte for our guests to sign.  The reason I love this idea so much (no matter how played out it may be) is because this amazing photo and matte with loving notes from all our friends and family now hangs above our mantle.  I see it every day and have WONDERFUL memories each time I look at it!


Post # 10
2434 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I think traditionally the guest book was a place to record the guests and their addresses.

But you definitely don’t need one.  Just pass on the ones you’ve gotten (or sell them).

Post # 11
6571 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

you don’t need a guestbook. but if you already have so many, why not use one? we made a photobook of pictures from when we started dating up to when we got engaged. i really haven’t put together an album since then anyway, so i figure now i have one, killing two birds with one stone.

Post # 12
1676 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m with you EvieMarie.  For some reason I’m just really not into the idea of a guestbook.  I feel like we would rarely go back and look at it.  Our guests will all have the time to congratulate us (in person) and send their best wishes *without* a guest book.  Do I really need some book sitting around my house that has 100 different messages that all say “Congrats!  Best of luck in your marriage!”

Answer: No.  Not really. 

Maybe this makes us unsentimental bride freaks, but I just wanted to back you up and say I’m also pretty anti-guest book.

Post # 14
36 posts
  • Wedding: May 2010

I totally hate guest books too…The worse is being a guest book attendant, I was one once and have the people flat out ignored me, so it’s not like everyone signs it anyway….I felt like Miranda on Sex in the City…

I would put them up on ebay or craig’s list cuz, or you could always regift them (that’s probably how you ended up with so many anyway)

Post # 15
682 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Instead of a guest book we had a wish bowl, I believe one of the bees blogged about it but I can’t remember who….

Anyway, we had cards where the guests could write what they wanted, things such as wishes, predictions and advice. There were some really funny ones from our friends and some really great advice from our relatives. We put them all into a scrap book. It looks pretty nice and its different than your average guest book.

Post # 16
665 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m a guestbook hater… when will I ever glance back over illegible signatures? I’m sure many enjoy the sentimental value, but its just not for me. 🙂

I suppose I’ll go the photo frame route if anything… I’ve also had a friend do a cookbook!

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