Post # 1
I have been to 3 different weddings and I’ve never seen a mother/son dance. Are they really that common? My FI’s parents are divorced and remarried, and he is actually somewhat closer to his step mom for various reasons. I think that his real mom is expecting a mother/son dance (she has mentioned being excited for it), but Fiance doesn’t really want one for a few reasons.
1. He’s never seen it done before at another wedding
2. He thinks people will get bored watching my father and I dance, then watching him and his mother(s) dance
3. The BIGGEST reason: He has two moms! If he danced with his real mom, he would definitely also want to dance with his stop mom who he feels closer to. We thought about having one song and splitting the dance time in half with each mom, but he doesn’t want to make either mom feel less important.
What do you think we should do?
Post # 3
I think if you have a father/daughter dance you have to have a mother/son dance. We get that people might be bored, so we are planning on using the same song and dancing at the same time. I’d love to scrap the dances all together, but FH thinks his mom would be disappointed.
You’re in sort of a unique situation with the two moms though. I don’t know if splitting it would be awkward… Maybe do the dance with the bio mom and look for a special way to honor the step mom?
Post # 4
Thanks for the suggestion!
Post # 5
My Fiance doesnt want to do one, mostly because his mom is cray cray and she wont be able to handle it without breaking down completely… yep.
Post # 6
We had one for my husband and his mom. It was nice. I thought it was very common to have one. However, you have a unique case, so I’d say maybe have two dances.
Post # 7
If he’s not used to seeing one during weddings, and he is already uncomfortable because of having two moms.. I would just nix it altogether. I think it depends on every couple. I think it’s weird when just the father/daughter have a dance. But there are no rules!
Post # 8
Just my opinion- personally, mother and son dance creeps me out. Obviously I am thinking of DH’s mother,- so that is where I get that from. As far as your situation, I would not do it if your SO is uncomfortable with it. I understand the two moms things- I have a stepdad and (in reverse) my mother was always trying to make me include him in the wedding- but come on, he was my second step dad, and basically a stranger. My sister got married before me, and she just walked herself down the aisle. At my high school graduation it said “cbee… daughter of Jim, John, and the late Hans,” I was like “yikes!” (Obviously those aren’t their real names… 🙂 )
Post # 9
I misread the question and voted split the dance in half. I thought it meant to split a dance in half between your dance with your dad and his dance with his mom, which is what we did. My DH and his mom just joined us part way through.
I would just have him talk to his moms and find out if either/both of them are interested in a mother/son dance. It might be a moot point if only one or neither wants that moment in the spotlight.
Post # 10
When my friends got married, they did the father-daughter dance and halfway through, the groom and his mom joined in on the dance floor.
Post # 11
It obviously means alot to his mother to dance with him at the wedding. I think they should do it. They can have more than one song, and maybe while he dances with his step mom, you can dance with your new Father-In-Law.
Post # 12
We are going to have a Father/Daughter and Mother/Son dance at the same time. We have found a super-cute and cheesy country song from the fifties that will fit with both.
Post # 13
@dhake723: I didnt vote as i didnt know which one to!!
I have never seen a mother/son dance, but i wanted one at mine so that my Mother-In-Law felt special. My dad was worried about dancing so what we did was start the father daughter dance and have our moment, i nodded to DH and he brought his mom out and then the bridal party joined us…song ended and then we started to rock out! *laugh*
Post # 14
I’ve never seen it at any wedding I have attended. (Also have only ever seen one father/daughter dance, after attending many weddings) It’s not required and if your FH doesn’t want one, then skip it.
Post # 15
We did a combo dance (I danced with my dad and he danced with his mom at the same time). I’ve been to weddings where other parents come on the floor and cut in. Maybe you could do something like that?
Post # 16
@dhake723: I’ve only seen it once. We aren’t having either. My dad passed away when I was 19 and my Fiance can’t stand his bio mother.