(Closed) Is the Registry Rule "2 Items per Guest" True?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

I never heard that rule!  So I’d say no, we just registered for what we wanted!

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2012

Never heard of it either. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I heard of it from the stores – I think it is a gimmick so you register for more stuff.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I haven’t heard of that rule either. I did an Amazon registry and 4 people bought things off of it. Not spectacularly successful and no worries about not having enough items on the registry!

I wouldn’t register for things you don’t need or want. Someone will see that item and think “isn’t this wonderful? I love item x and they must too because it’s on their registry!” and you might get unwanted item x rather than item y that you needed/actually wanted.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

It is way too high for me. I don’t think it’s a terrible rule of thumb, it just depends on your crowd. If you live in an area where people give gifts instead of money, and you’re having a couple of showers with different groups or your circle throws huge showers (I went to one once that was 80 people), then yeah – that’s probably about right. You want to have more than people will buy so they always have a choice in several different price ranges.

If you live in an area where people tend to give cash for the wedding and you’re having only a small shower or no shower, it’s probably WAY too much.

We registered for 87 things (counting each towel/item separately so it’s really a bit lower than that when you look at what people would actually buy as a gift) and are having a wedding of about 150 people (250 invited). Cash is more common for wedding gifts in my circle AND we already have a furnished home.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Our gifts only came in the way of shower gifts so we didnt need 2 per person, but we did average 1 per person and got everything we registered for (our parents got some registry items for xmas etc as well)

If your region tends to give money at the wedding then you wont really need 2 per person.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Never heard of this but I uess where I live it’s typically 1 gift at the shower, another gift at the wedding (that is what my bm and fmil told me).  I just thought it was 1 gift period… either at the shower OR at the wedding.  I was clueless.  Just register for what you need.  I assumed I wouldn’t get much off my registry anyway so only registered for stuff I needed or wanted…hahaha.  

Fmil wanted me to open another registry but I have over 80 items on one registry for a 150 person guestlist… I got a couple of items already off the list at my shower… I don’t need another registry.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’ve heard of the 2 gifts per guest rule, but we’re not exactly following it. That said, I think it’s more important to have gifts in a range of price points sothere’s something for everyone.

Remember that if you’re having a shower, people are expected to bring you actual gifts (not really gift cards and/or honeymoon registry items), so keep that in mind in terms of the amount of pieces you register for.

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think it’s just something the stores say to get you to register for more crap. I would just register for what you want/need and leave it at that.

Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper

We didn’t go by that rule, but we registered for far more items than # of guests, and we had to add more to our registries because they quickly filled up.

Are you having a bridal shower?  I was amazed at how many items had been purchased off the list after my showers!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’ve never, ever heard of this.

Register for what you want/need, end of story.

If people shop late, they will probably just get you a gift card of a monetary gift. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

That rule doesn’t even make sense.  If you are trying to figure out your registry, I think you need to have a general idea about how much on average your guests will spend on their gift to you.  Certainly there will be some who buy much more expensive items, but there will also be some who either do not give a gift (it happens, sadly) or spend $25.  I think the most important thing is to include a broad range of items in terms of price point.  If you have all $100+ items, you will receive very few.  If you have a ton of very cheap items, someone wanting to buy you something nicer (rather than 30 small things) might also be turned off.  I never had a Honeymoon registry, so I don’t know how that plays into it, but I would think that it would act sort of like an alternative to those who always give cash.  Some guests are anti-reigstry and only give cash (maybe a Honeymoon donation) and some are anti-cash and only give registry items.  Then you will get the 2 guests who buy you totally off the wall crap that you never registered for and have no idea what to do with.  

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I’ve never heard of it (but I’m from the UK), but do you have an option for gift vouchers on either of your lists so if everything else has been “taken” guests can still get you gift vouchers and then you have those to spend on other things you may want later on (or put them towards the more expensive things on your list if they don’t get picked up).

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Don’t register for 2 gifts per guest- it’s far too much and you’ll have incomplete sets (towels, dishes, etc).  I have a whole post about this on the gifts and registries board.  Instead, I would suggest registering for one or two items per shower guest.  If your registry sells out after the shower, add a little more.

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