- 7 years ago
- Wedding: February 2016
So, incognito Bee here. I know it is annoying but I just do not feel comfortable putting this under my real username. I have a ? for the Hive.
Last night, my SO and I got in a huge fight. Epic fight.
A lot of hurtful things were said, and I eventually left and went to a friends house to cool down while my SO talked with one of his friends. We have never had a fight like this before. One thing he said to me really stuck out and hurt. He said that the spark just was not there anymore, and he asked me if I could honestly feel it. I thought about it before replying and said that I knew that I wanted to be with him and him only. Well, several hours later and after we had separated, cried, talked it out and were about to go to sleep I asked him one more time if he truly felt no spark with me. He said he did, but he couldn’t explain it. He said that things felt monotonous. He said it could be that is was the dead middle of winter and things get in a slump. That was it and that was all.
Have any of you ever encountered an SO who felt like this? Have you felt like that? Can a relationship survive when one person doesn’t feel as passionate as the other?
To answer a few questions before anyone takes the time to write a thoughtful response:
– He most likely will not consider couples counseling … he believes those are reserved for extreme circumstances
– We do live together, and have been together for almost 2 years
– Our sex life is adequate. I wont say great or poor, but we are intimate regularly and even though it is kind of vanilla, it is satisfying to the both of us