Post # 31
I actually read the link.
It’s not the best written, but it does propose a few interesting statements.
One if that we should look at agre demographics and how the divorce rate changes over time. I like the idea of looking at age brackets and comparing them generation to generation, as well as following a subsect of people as they move on through life. Perhaps there’s just this weird thing with the people who were born in th 1970s who divorce more overall than another generation.
The other facet I found interesting was the proposal on including cohabitating couples. I don’t think it’s necessarily the best idea, as by definition a non-married couple cannot get divorced, but I support using that data int studies on relationship stability.
Post # 32
cpick: Right on! I have a friend who one time said that she wished her relaltionship (with her now husband) was like Derek and Meredith’s on Grey’s. I had to polite tell her that they weren’t a real couple, and writers for a TV show make them who they are. Comparing yourself to someone on TV is not the way to go… they’re made to be that way and aren’t real.
Post # 33
Reading some of the stories on here of posters and their SO I have no doubt why the divorce rate is so high.
Habitual cheating, immaturity, financial irresponsibility, getting married only because someone is pregnant, abusive partners, etc
I told my partner this and I truely believe that if you go into a marriage with the person you think is the absolute best person there are no guarantees but you have the best chance of success.
If you go in at less than ideal chances are your not going to make it
Post # 34
Mrs_Amanda: curiousbridekat: Just fyi I don’t think divorce is inherently bad. I merely thought that this would be an interesting point of discussion. Obviously some people are against divorce, but I think that it is warranted in some cases and that it’s not our place as outsiders to judge someone else’s relationship.
Post # 35
Kacie209: I agree life is not like a t.v. show, I would think a grown woman would know that.
I was telling my grandmother about how my boyfriend ( soon to be fiance) is taking me on a trip to NYC to propose soon. She made the most ignorant comment.
” Dear you know that this isn’t how real life is” in repsonse to how SO is proposing.
UMmmm pretty sure that I am really living my life and that you should be happy for me that my SO wants to make my proposal super special.
Post # 36
I think all points brought up are valid.
Something I’ve also thought too is the reason for marriage has evolved. It used to be to create alliances between countries for royalty, it was survival for people who needed to have children to work to support the families needs, or your parents chose who you married, etc… Marriage used to be more about obligation and survival and now it’s a choice we make based on how we feel. Feelings change and when people don’t feel like they want to do it anymore they give up. I’m not saying all people are like that. I don’t think everyone realizes how serious and how much effort it takes to keep a marriage going. And then sometimes things happen where one person makes a bad choice that affects the marriage. Each situation is different so there’s no one answer.