(Closed) Is the "wine and box" idea depressing?

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: What do you think of the wine and box idea?


    Not my favorite thing, but it's your wedding.

    Great idea!

  • Post # 17
    3885 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I love the idea—we did it ourselves— but our officiant didn’t like the wording of “open it if you have troubles” so we just left that part out.  We also had each of our guests write us a note, using cards we provided, and we sealed those up along with our love notes, and will read them on our 5th anniversary (lol we can’t wait 10 years for wine!)

    One of our friends, recently engaged, liked our wine box ritual so much that she’s doing it too ๐Ÿ™‚ And I feel flattered by her adopting our idea. No thunder-stealing going on!

    Post # 19
    9800 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @anenglish15:  I love it!

    I am thinking of doing this as well.  And like PP, probably just stating that it is to be opened on a 10 (?) year anniversary.  I love wine and after our first date we had a bottle of a malbec together!

    I’m also not having a church wedding, so I have no interest in doing a unity candle or sand thing.  So I was looking for something do, and well, I love wine!  I’d take the bottle of wine at 10 years than holding onto a candle personally Wink

    Post # 20
    3339 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

    I think the part I don’t like about it is “if the marriage is ever in trouble, you open the box…”  That makes it have a negative connotation for me.  I’d prefer to just say that you’ll open it on your __ anniversary.  That way it’s a positive thing.  Maybe your gma is looking at it in a similar way.

    Post # 21
    1237 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    We did it but we used whiskey instead of wine because we’re not big red wine drinkers and white wine didn’t make sense. We absolutely left in the part about opening the letters and drinking the whiskey if we were to hit a rough patch, before making any rash decisions. The officiant then said that “the hope is that the box will remain sealed until their 10th wedding anniversary when they can instead open the box as a celebration” We felt it was important to leave in the part about the rough patch because it’s realistic. We weren’t thinking of it like we were amplifying negativity during our ceremony, in fact it seemed no different to us than “for better or worse” just more detail, I suppose.

    Post # 23
    545 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I wanted to do the wine box ceremony but Fiance wasn’t crazy about having it actually in the ceremony so we are just having the box out by the guest book with a blurb explaining what the box is, and inviting people to drop notes of advice to seal up also. 

    Oh and we are going to open it every year on our anniversary and then add another letter

    Post # 24
    98 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I like the idea! We are writing each other letters the night before our wedding and plan to open it on our 5th or 10th anniversary!

    Post # 25
    3667 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    My SO and I loved this idea when we first heard about it and plan to do it at our wedding ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 26
    2141 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I think it’s kind of pessimistic to have as part of the marriage ceremony, but I kind of like the idea of making one at some other time

    Post # 27
    3617 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I wish I had heard of this before we got married. Sadly, pinterest was not around yet and I did not stumble on this idea until after.

    Post # 28
    7294 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    i first learned about the wine box ceremony from weddingbee and i loved it so much that i did it for my wedding! my DH loved it too.  And we had a couple of guests come up to us after our wedding and tell us how they really liked it too.

    Post # 29
    3765 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    Oh, I like this idea, though maybe not as a part of the ceremony but more as a private ritual for Fiance and I. Problem is he’s a HUGE wine fanatic and will probably have a heart attack about properly storing the wine, temperatures, etc etc etc.

    I’ll ask him though ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 30
    2655 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    We did this at our rehearsal dinner and invited all guests (family and bridal party) to write us a little note and place it in the wine chest. We’ll open the chest on our 5 year anniversary and read what they wrote while drinking the wine. I kind of wish we would have written notes to each other too but in the business of the night we didn’t. It will be fun to read what everyone wrote though in 5 years.

    We opted to do it on our rehearsal night because our church doesn’t allow alcohol on the premise. You could also bring it to your reception later for guests to add to it if you wished. I think it provided a fun interactive activity for our guests and was something unique about our wedding/rehearsal weekend.

    Post # 31
    1093 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I think it’s a great idea and Fiance was excited about it too! I pitched it to him as opening it on our 5 year anniversary though. I think people only think it’s depressing if you wait  for a fight to open it 

    I want to continue the tradition too and write a new letter every time we open it so every 5 years we get a special treat!

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