- 4 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
Basically H cosigned on BIL’s cell phone plan which is $160/month total. H mentioned that Brother-In-Law asked about it and I kept advising against it. Then I found a letter in the mail addressed to H but it was not the network he uses and I asked him about it…he grabbed the letter out of my hand and said it was nothing, then later I read the letter after it was opened and saw that he did end up cosigning.
I confronted him about it and he said he already told me that he did it, which I think I would have remembered because I would have made a big stink about it. It’s been weeks since I found out but now I still don’t feel better about the situation. I told H that if Brother-In-Law fails to pay his bills that H will have to to pay for it all and he said that’s not true. So I want to see the contract…he must have a copy right? I think he’ll just get annoyed if I ask and say that I don’t trust his judgment but I don’t.
Brother-In-Law has already lost his phone and I guess he got it replaced and his girlfriend (SIL) broke her phone. The hilarious thing is that the only reason that H cosigned was because Brother-In-Law and Mother-In-Law were on the outs and she would n ot cosign for him, so H took it upon himself to do it. Now Mother-In-Law and Brother-In-Law are on speaking terms again and everyone thinks H is too hard on Mother-In-Law, who always goes out of her way to say that H is not a good son and that he’s not there for his family. SIL even trashes him. And while we don’t deserve the world, we did let Brother-In-Law live with us for a few months and helped him get back on his feet. I always tell H that his family will never respect him or what he does for them and to stop caring and stop trying to help them. His mom has money, she just bought a condo and a new car but chose not to help Brother-In-Law without feeling guilty. H and I live paycheck to paycheck sometimes and I’m pregnant and it does make me really sad that he would do this to us for a family that doesn’t even care about him that much.
Why did Brother-In-Law need a smart phone? He could have easily got one that was pay as you go. Aside from that whole stint of H letting Brother-In-Law live with us a few months ago, I find that H and I are really drifting apart and he either doesn’t get it yet or doesn’t care. I guess it’s probably the former. Every time I’d criticize H for helping Brother-In-Law too much, he’d act like I was tossing Brother-In-Law out on the streets to die. H isn’t even 25 yet and Brother-In-Law is almost 30. He should never have tried to do any of this and even though Brother-In-Law has moved out, I’m still getting over the whole thing and this cell phone thing doesn’t make things any better.