- 4 years ago
- Wedding: December 2017
My fiancé and I have been doing the “shall we have a big expensive wedding, or a much smaller and more sensible wedding, and save our sanity and money, but give up the dream event we always wanted” debate, for a year now.
I am absolutely terrified that I will wake up the next day and think: “we spend $xx,xxx” on THAT???” and be thoroughly depressed.
Before anyone says “you can have an amazing wedding without spending a fortune”, YES! I quite agree! It just so happens that with our huge families, and what he had in mind in terms of food and quality of experience, it will either be expensive, or possibly dissapointing. So we keep going back and forth…
Well the other day I thought: why don’t we go have a destination wedding, that is very very small. We will tell everyone it is completely and totally not expected that they attend, but they are very welcome. I can have a nice dress, we can hire a nice photographer, and have a formal dinner, but on a much smaller scale. Then when we come home, have a big (in terms of guests) BBQ to celebrate. It will be low key, no gifts. Just some delicious food and good music.
I have heard of people doing something like this and it sounds amazing. My concern is that I wouldn’t want anyone to feel pressured to spend the $$ to travel to the destination, if their budget is tight or they don’t want to travel, and so I want it to be known that we will have the low-key at home reception later. Is there a good way to word this or make it clear? Is it even approrpiate to do so?
Thank you so much in advance! Also, please know: we would be going to FL, which for most of our guests is a 2 hour flight, and at that time of year, only about $100. So family and friends who would really like to travel, will not be spending a fortune. We are not going to Fiji or anything 🙂