(Closed) Is there a poilte way…

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
5668 posts
Bee Keeper

Have your mom do it if you can. She probably knows or will have an easier time chatting with an aunt who’s in the know about that type of thing.

Post # 4
1106 posts
Bumble bee

Yeah, I would say the mom’s or aunts would know it.

Post # 6
5668 posts
Bee Keeper

@galloway111: I’d think if Grandma can tell you who has a SO then you can call Cousin Bob and say “I’d really love it if your girlfriend could make it to the wedding, just to make sure I address the invite correclty can you give me the spelling of her name?”

Post # 7
125 posts
Blushing bee

Can I ask… I know they’re your family and all – but if you aren’t close enough to know if they’re in a long term comitted relationship, why are you even inviting them? 

Sorry if that offends you, it’s a genuine question, seeing as I have no contact with anyone outside my immediate family -I don’t even know how many cousins I have : I’ll be saving my seats for those that actually play a significant part in our lives.

Post # 8
3265 posts
Sugar bee

If you are inviting this person you should call them up and ask them.

You don’t have to stay on the line with them for more then a few minutes and will then get the information from the source.

I would hate to rely on someone elses knowledge about a relationship. What if Granny just forgets about Margarets partner Sam and then Margaret gets there and sees everyone with dates but her?

Post # 9
5657 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

We asked our parents if they knew they were in a relationship or not and for their name. If they didn’t know the name, we just put “and guest”. We didn’t call them directly because we hardly know them, nevermind that we don’t know their phone numbers lol. It was faster and easier just to ask FI’s parents.

@sarizzle: We had to invite a whole bunch of people we’re not close to just because they’re family. FI’s dad is contributing to the wedding, so he got a say in who we invited.

Post # 10
7431 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Hmmm, maybe you have a cousin who would be in the know, who you could call? That’s a tough spot to be in. I was lucky that we both have small families, and were able to find out easily on all sides. I guess if all else fails, you could either send them a +1, but since you are trying to keep numbers down, you could just send them an individual invite and then deal ith any drama that ensues afterwards?

The guest list is an evil, evil thing

Post # 12
5296 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

facebook stalk, my dear.

Honestly, I had to do that for a few of the ‘must invites’…….whether or not *I* really thought they were ‘must invites’………..oh the joys of the guest list!

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