(Closed) Is there a polite way to ask guests not to post pics of our wedding on Facebook?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
4464 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I’m not sure about the asking the guests etiquette, but I know that I have it set that I can approve anything my friends tag me in before it goes live on my timeline. Meaning that they can tag me, the picture is visible on their wall to their friends, but it won’t show up on my wall until I approve. Chances are your mutual friends would all see the picture anyway without it being on your wall but yes, there is that option. 

Post # 4
3182 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

You can ask people but there’s no guarantee.  Also it would be hard to get the message out to all the guests. Of course there’s nothing you could do about people’s personal pics, i.e. a picture of them and their date at the table.  Your best bet is just to change your fb settings to not let people tag you until you give permission. 

Post # 5
1735 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Why do you not want them to post pics?

Post # 6
2542 posts
Sugar bee

Facebook does have an option that allows you to approve photos that go on your own timeline. The person can still upload the pictures to their own Facebook but it won’t show on your timeline unless you look at it and say it’s okay first. 

To do this, go to the top right corner where there’s a little down arrow (next to your name and “Home”) and click the dropdown menu. Then select “privacy settings,” then “timelines and tagging.” The third thing in the list that comes up is something like “review posts friends tag you in before they appear on your timeline”…select “on.” 

Hope that helps! I don’t really think there is a polite way to ask people not to post on FB, but maybe you could spread it by word of mouth that you prefer people not do that? Then it doesn’t sound like it’s coming right from you.


P.S. I was worried about this too and people ended up hardly posting anything on FB. I never even mentioned anything about it and there were only maybe like 5-10 pictures posted of me, all that I got to approve before posting through changing the privacy settings 🙂

Post # 7
3720 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

The easiest way is to make sure you have to approve all postings to your wall. I did this before we got engaged (when I knew it would be during a two-week trip). I didn’t want the future-best man’s girlfriend or my now-FI’s cousin to spill the beans before we could. Luckily they respected our wishes and kept it quiet until we could announce it.

I also plan to stalk facebook on our honeymoon and promptly de-tag any unflattering photos.

Post # 8
828 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Aside from the aforementioned approvals, I am thinking of writing something in the program that asks guests to kindly silence and pocket all mobile phones at least for the ceremony.

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