(Closed) Is there a shift to having children earlier again?

posted 5 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Is there a shift from waiting longer to have children to having them earlier again?
    Yes : (29 votes)
    21 %
    No : (111 votes)
    79 %
  • Post # 2
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Eh, most people I know started having kids in late 20s and early 30s. I’m 32 and pregnant with out first. We have several friends that already have 1 and are working on #2. But we also have plenty of friends that haven’t had any yet. In my social/age group, I only know two couples who started in their early 20s and are now done. 

    Post # 3
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2015

    My crew is also “babies are for 30s”. I would have loved to have them young but I’ll be married at 29 and want some time with just my husband, and to save for a house so c’est la vie. We’re starting to try at 31. Hopefully 2 kids by 34.

    Post # 4
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    Toulouse:  I think it depends on where you live. Where I live it is very common to have kids early. I’m 23 and just got married and that is actually on the older side where I live to be married. Average age is 18 or 19 to be married because I’m in a military town. A lot of girls I went to high school with are my age and already have two kids! I can’t even imagine. My husband is military too but we want to wait (until we are like 29 or so) so we can travel and save money for our future kids.

    Post # 5
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    Buzzing Beekeeper

    Meh, I think it’s still very social-circle/location-specific. I’m in my late 20s and all of my college/law school classmates/friends, as well as my coworkers, have really only just started having babies in the past year or so (and I could count on one hand the total number of babies, most don’t have any yet). I myself don’t want to TTC until 32/33 and plan on just one pregnancy.

    My old high school classmates, OTOH, have had babies much, much earlier. Most of them have multiple kids at this point with the oldest ones in the 5-7 year old range.

    Post # 6
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    Busy bee

    Most of our friends had them in their 30s, aside from one very religious couple who are in their early 20s with two kids and another on the way. My husband and I are childfree by choice, and we only know two other childfree couples.

    Post # 7
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    I was a month shy of turning 25 when I had my first child and felt like I was getting started late.  The vast majority of people I grew up/went to school with has had at least one child and I’m 30 and live in Texas.

    Post # 8
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    Around where I’m from it seems like there are two “waves”. The first group gets married right out of college and have kids by 26-27, and then there’s another influx of weddings late 20s with kids early 30s.

    Post # 9
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Most of my friends are still waiting, and they’re already 30/31.  Everyone around me that has a kid already was unplanned, with the exception of one couple, who decided to have a baby at 25. 

    I was very much in the camp of waiting till my 30s, and we started TTC at 30, but we realllllyyyy didn’t know it was going to take as long as it has. 

    Post # 10
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    I’m 25 and in my area it’s a little interesting.  I grew up in a VERY impoverished town and most of my school classmates had children before 18-19.  In fact, a few of them have 5-6 kids right now with multiple dads.  It’s a really, really poor town and most people in the high school I went to, as well as in my friend group, are not married, but have children.  My Fiance and I are REALLY early on the marriage front (my sister was 22 when she married in Oct 2014) but for the most part, no one else I know is married under 30.  However, we’re one of the only couples that don’t have kids so we’re late on that field ….

    Post # 11
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

    My country has one of the highest ages for first birth in the world. The average age for first birth is 30… and that takes into account teenage pregnancies etc etc.

    Amongst my friends, I would say that the average is even later than that… most of our friends are in their late 20s/early 30s, most have said they want children at some stage, but only a few couples have them right now. I think there will be a baby boom in the mid to late 30s amongst our group…

    Post # 12
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    Bumble bee

    Not really but I guess it depends on social circles. The ones who got married right after college had kids in their mid 20s. Everyone else had kids in their late 20s/early 30s. I don’t know anyone who had kids in their early 20s.

    Post # 13
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    Honey bee

    Definitely a social circle thing. I am almost 27 and only two of my friends have children. One had her children at 20/22 and the other had her children at 24/26. Most of my friends are waiting until their late 20’s/early 30’s to have children.

    Darling Husband and I are planning on waiting 2 more years before TTC, which would make us 29 and 31.

    Post # 14
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I’m 34, and do have a lot of friends with children, but they had them at all different ages – depending on when they got married, or got pregnant.

    Some were mid-20’s (25), some late 20’s (28), and some around our age now (34). We haven’t started TTC yet, but I’ll be around 35 when that happens… and will have friends with 10-year olds!

    Post # 15
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    I’m half & Half … half of my friends have had kids pretty earlier and the other half feel like they need to enjoy their 20s and live it up without having that responsibility ..I think its more personal preferences.. Darling Husband & I don’t have a set age we will TTC when we’re more financially stable and have had time to enjoy married life a bit more (still newlyweds)

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