(Closed) Is there a shift to having children earlier again?

posted 5 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Is there a shift from waiting longer to have children to having them earlier again?
    Yes : (29 votes)
    21 %
    No : (111 votes)
    79 %
  • Post # 16
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    Buzzing bee

    I think it varies greatly by region and perhaps economic class. In my industry, region, and social circle, people are well into their mid thirties by the time they have children. But a lot of my old classmates in a rural area had kids by the time they were 22.

    Post # 17
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    Yes! I’m in my early twenties some of my close friends have babies but over half the girls I graduated with have kids. 

    Post # 18
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman

    A few people I went to high school with have children but none of my close friends do and everyone is 30+ and several are married or will be soon. 

    Post # 19
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2016

    Im 30 and have only 1 freind with a kid. I don’t anticiapte any of my freinds having kids for at least a few more years, maybe by mid 30’s. Fiance and I plan to start TTC next year after the wedding, so I’ll be 31. This feels young to me! As none of my other freinds are even considering kids in the near future. I’m from Boston, and everyone seems a little more career driven at this point.

    Post # 20
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    Bumble bee

    I only have one friend from HS who had her kid in her early 20s (and only one). Most everyone else I know waited until they were at least 26 and the most notable two had their babies this past year, and they’re 29. I’m 28 right now and most of my friends still haven’t had kids/gotten married. I probably won’t be having any until I’m 32, if all goes according to plan.

    Post # 21
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    Sugar bee

    My friends from my hometown all had kids when they were in their mid to late 20s. That’s just what’s done there though. In my bigger city, none of my friends have kids and we are in our late 20s and early 30s. 

    Post # 22
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    In my circle of friends the only people under 28 with kids had unplanned pregnancies in their late teens. At work it seems that most people are also waiting until late twenties/early thirties to have kids.

    I think this heavily depends on your social circle and your location.

    Post # 23
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    A lot of people I was friends with in high school have children already, the oldest child I can think of is 7 and I graduted high school 8 years ago. Although, most of them are either divorced already or have never been married.. and a fair amount of other people from HS had children before the age of 18.

    Among my college friends only 1 of them has a child, who is 1 year old now. Darling Husband and I have been TTC and I think we’ll be the only other couple in our circle of friends from college with a child for the next few years.

    Post # 24
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    Toulouse:  Depends on your group. Most in my group are either early 30s or choosing to not have kids at all.

    Post # 26
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    7097 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I think it’s really geographical. I live in the southeast, and at 30 most of my friends are done having kids and I’m just now TTC. My Darling Husband grew up in the northeast and at 33, most of his friends he grew up with aren’t even married yet (or just now getting married) let alone have kids.

    Post # 27
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I think it totally depends on where you live and the socioeconomic “group” you’re in, your level of education, etc.

    I went to high school in a really small, poor town (less than 30 kids in my graduating class) and of the 17 girls in the class, legitimately all except four are mothers now.  I’m only 23.  All the girls who were on the cheerleading squad with me my senior year have 2+ babies now, and some were younger than me … Of the ones who are mothers, only two have finished an associate’s.  Two girls got married our senior year and one is divorced now.

    My friend from high school’s mom saw my mom at the grocery store in our hometown and said, “Oh, we were just talking about 208bride and how she’ll be the only pregnant one at the ten-year reunion!”  =/  I’m tired of feeling like the old maid (and the butt of lots of cat lady jokes) when I’m 23 and married!

    However, none of my friends from college have kids yet.  I was in a sorority and Darling Husband in a fraternity so we have a pretty big college friend group.  I was the first one to be married, my very good friend a close second.  There are a few who are engaged now.  I think my friends who got married right after us will be the first to have a baby because they are deeply Catholic, no birth control and such, but I don’t think they are planning to actually try for another year or two still.

    Post # 28
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    A few of my friends had children early (by that I mean early- mid-20s). The other half of my friends either haven’t had them yet (early 30s), or just had them at about 30. We aren’t having children so I don’t feel pressured luckily!

    Post # 29
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    Bumble bee

    i think it depends on where you live. i think people who live in the south or in rural areas are more likely to have children sooner. also depends on level of education of course. it’s always been this way.

    Post # 30
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    Bumble bee

    Most people I know started having kids in their early to mid 20’s.

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