(Closed) Is there a shift to having children earlier again?

posted 5 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Is there a shift from waiting longer to have children to having them earlier again?
    Yes : (29 votes)
    21 %
    No : (111 votes)
    79 %
  • Post # 31
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    I know I personally and my circle want their first before 30, and me I’d love to start trying no later than 25. I’m 21 currently. I think this is because my mum is really young and I love the smaller age gap between us. I also think the whole as soon as you hit 30 babies are so much harder and affects it for us.

    Post # 32
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    358 posts
    Helper bee

    I think a lot of it has to do with where you live. Here in the south, people tend to have kids young (I am the first one in my family not to have a kid by age 19). I would like to have my first child in my late 20s but I’m pretty sure SO would like to wait until early 30s- it is a bridge we will cross after marriage once we see where we are at in life at that point. I also think socio-economic factors are at play. Most working class people around here tend to have kids young, whereas most people who have high paying careers (and therefore more education/years of schooling) tend to have kids in their 30s.

    Post # 33
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2014

    Where I’m originally from, 30 is super old to be having children, most people who stuck around town after high school were having kids in their late teens/early twenties. Many of them have several by now. 

    I went to college in the city and nobody I know from college has kids yet, very few are married (I’m 26). 

    I think education and career ambition has a lot to do with delaying having children, so there are kind of two waves of people, those that didn’t go to college and have kids out of high school and those that go to college and establish their career first and then decide to have children. There are obviously exceptions, but that’s the general trend I’ve seen with my facebook friends.

    Post # 34
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    1387 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Dependent on where you live? I live in Dallas and everyone with babies is in their 30s. I’m turning 30 this year and no babies on the horizon for us. 

    Post # 35
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    1076 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    charlieb15:  I agree thats what it seems like around here too. Most of the people I know form high school are either already married with a couple of kids. Or are engaged or newly married working on their first. I’m 29 and we are working on our first. 

    Post # 36
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    2968 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    Most people I know had kids around the mid-late 20s area, with a few exceptions having them much younger.

     

    BrynneF:  Unrelated! Another Brynne for the win!

    Post # 37
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    7430 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    Most of my friends with kids wanted to be done having them by 30, and started in their mid-late 20’s. I was 27 when my first was born, and I’m pregnant again at 29. We live in Southern California.

    Post # 38
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    394 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2018

    My mother (who still lives in my high school town where all the girls who stayed there have one kid minimum) seems to think so since she keeps saying I’m an old maid at 23. It’s definitely the difference between  high school sweethearts very religious/no college and college very secular/career driven in the cases I’ve seen. 

    Post # 39
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    860 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    As others said, it varies by location and social circle. My high school friends all got married and started having kids by their mid-20s.

    My med school and work friends are just getting married now in their late 20s and early 30s and almost none have children yet.

    Post # 40
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    1471 posts
    Bumble bee

    Nope.  In my area many are waiting until early, even mid-30s.  Livin’ the youth life.  🙂

    My fiance and I are 31, and he has absolutely zero – zilch – friends with kids.  And several of them are married, too.  I do have a few friends with baby #1 but most are planning to start in the next few years if they’re already married.  

    Post # 41
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    602 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I live in Southern California and everyone I know in the area waited till their 30’s to have kids.  Most pregnant women I see when I’m out look to be in their 30’s too.  I’m 32 now and trying for our first. 

    Given the cost of living in the area, it would be very difficult to have a young family here without an established career, so a lot of people wait for that in order to give their kids the kind of life they want for them.   

    Post # 42
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    64 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I’m 23, nearly 24, and have been married for almost 2 years.  We have lost one,  which isn’t common here for a couple to be married for so long without a little one.   Most people I went to school with have been married since right after high school (about 5 years now) and are on their 3-4th kid. 

    I just want one *shrug*

    Post # 43
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    671 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I think it depends on who it is and where you live, but also it depends on what you consider “earlier”.  On the other hand, there are also an increasing number of women having babies at age 40+.

    Post # 44
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    Our circle of friends has had a kid explosion over the last 2 years.  I’m on the younger end of the group (3 years younger than my Darling Husband and his school friends.)  We’re all mid 30s.  There are some who aren’t married, don’t have any kids yet.  And there are a few couples who don’t plan on having children.  Very, very few of my friends/coworkers had kids in their 20s. In fact, none of our extended group of friends have children over the age of 4, with the exception of my one friend.  Her step children are 18 and 20.  But her husband had them when he was quite young and the 2 of them are 10 years older than I am to start. 

    Post # 45
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    1488 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I sure hope not.

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