(Closed) Is there a short window for Engagement parties?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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sarahquinn:  We had a 2 1/2 year engagement. About 2 years into the engagement, my friends threw an enagagement party for me

Post # 17
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

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sarahquinn:  I think it’s fine. People will get it!

We had our engagement party 5 months after we got engaged… and it was supposed to be like 8-9 months after but we ended up moving it up. Same reasons, Fiance was away on work. Also, we just bought a new house and were moving/renovating, so things were crazy.

No one said anything about it not being in a timely manner. People were just excited to see us, our house, have some good food and relax.

Moral is, have it whenever you can OP, your family and friends will understand! Congrats!

Post # 18
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Busy bee

Engagement parties are becoming more popular by me, but I think 8 months out is too long also.  The few I have been too were within the first month or two of the couple becoming engaged.

 

Post # 19
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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sarahquinn:  My sister got engaged January 1st, but due to different things, her engagement party wasn’t until that August. Honestly? No one really cared or said anything about it. They had a two year engagement, so by the time of the engagement party it really started to be exciting because that was the kickoff to the wedding festivities, per se. I don’t really care for many of the strict etiquette rules that people tote around. I think if you want to throw a party eight months from now: do it. Everyone you’d be inviting would OBVIOUSLY understand why you had to wait so long. You aren’t waiting that long for giggles. I don’t think it seems indulgent or anything like that.

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

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sarahquinn:  We’re not having one because we’re far away from everyone, so we won’t get all our family/friends together until the wedding. I’m not bothered, because there’s so many wedding things happening that it just doesn’t matter! But we’re getting married sooner. If you are planning on a 2-3 year engagement and want a party, go for it. Personally, from the outside, it sounds a bit late. But only you know all your family and friends. I know that if we were able to have a party and it was later than etiquette called for, everyone will still be happy for us! So just think about if any of your family/friends will be bent out of shape, and if not, why not throw a party? Just make sure you specify no presents, just celebrating, or else it could seem too indulgent. Or maybe like someone else said, you could tie it into you Fiance graduating… maybe make it a graduation/engagement/”he’s back and we’re together!”/come celebrate party? 

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