(Closed) Is there an acceptable time to propose during wedding weekend?

posted 4 years ago in Guests
Post # 76
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Bee Keeper

I’d also like to add that if the cousin is wanting to propose to his gf during the weekend, why is OP hearing it third hand? Even if some Bees don’t see a problem with him proposing over this weekend, shouldn’t he be coming to the bride & groom with his plans to ‘celebrate both’ as he intends on doing? 

Post # 77
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Bumble bee

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amanda1988 :  this this this a million times this! 

Also @duchessofpaon you nailed it too.

Like it’s not their engagement party. I definitely have no interest in my cousin’s husbands friends and family at my engagement party BUT I do want to be engaged before my cousins wedding so I can take the opportunity to see my family shortly after I get engaged so we can “celebrate”. I don’t see them that often. There’s not a limit on the amount of love and excitement people have.

EDIT: asking him to pay for the brunch is one of the most insane ideas I’ve ever heard. Dont’ be an asshole OP, as long as he doesn’t propose AT your wedding be happy to spend time with your cousin and future cousin-in-law

Post # 78
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

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mimivac :  yeah I get that, and agree he 10000% should NOT propose DURING an event hosted by the bride and groom–even if it’s a pot-luck type event if they organized it, back the fuck off.

But if he wants to propose while out in the mountains because it’s beautiful.. I just think people need to chill a little bit. 

We don’t know his wording.. because OP didn’t hear it first hand.  It’s possible, of course, that he wants to hijack their celebrations.  If so, he’s a deuche bag.  No question.  But it’s also tooootally possible that all he has in mind is being able to tell his family in person when they ask him what’s new with his life.

As for the proposal itself (which is what OP was asking about) is not only fine but not exactly something she has any say in.  She can’t really call cousin up and forbid him from proposing wihle out in the mountains.

Anywho, I think we’re on the same page.  I’m just bored and chit-chatting away.

Post # 79
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2022 - Maui

if youʻre paying for everything then i sorta see how itʻs not okay to do at all cuz then it kinda is your whole trip/weekend since youʻre hosting everyone that way.

but if theyʻre paying their way to be there, I think the day after the wedding would be fine; especially with all the family there, that would be quite nice to accommadate. 

Post # 80
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Busy bee

I would be pissed. Idgaf if it’s “only a day” or whatever, to each their own, it would not be okay with it.

Post # 81
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

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therollingclones :  Umm…using your wedding to celebrate his engagement seems really off to me. You have a right to be upset. Heck, my MIL has said that no one in the family can get engaged now because it’s “our time” (betwee now and July). That seems crazy to me, but in the same weekend? No. Sorry but that’s rude and bad manners! You are NOT a bridezilla for being taken aback.

Post # 82
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 1983

Send him a bill for half of everything since he wants to use your celebration as his celebration. 

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