Post # 1
Ok Fun thread! I have a question! Is there any aspect of your relationship where you might be more of the “guy”? For instance mine is:
I love to have steak medium/rare. I love a little blood! Mr.flipflops? No way! He HAS to have his completely done or he gets very squeemish!
I LOVE to grill! Well I love to cook but if we are grilling out that is totally my job! This does bother Mr.flipflops a little so sometimes I give in and let him do it.
Lastly, I drive everywhere. I love to drive plain and simple. He likes it but I just kinda “have” to do it.
Is there any areas where you might be a little more “guyish” then your guy? What about mice? Thats TOTALLY Mr.flipflops job! But I still know some woman who don’t have a problem with them. What your unique situation???
Post # 3
I kill the spiders in this relationship.
Post # 4
Haha Theresa90405! I also kill the spiders in the relationship! (But he kills the 6-legged critters, while I squeal like a little girl).
Post # 5
I mow the lawn andfix most minor household repairs.
Post # 6
Hmm… not really that I can think of. We usually split things like driving long distances 50-50 (neither one of us really wants to do it!). We both do household repairs, whoever discovered the broken thing usually just fixes it.
I like my steak medium rare too; where I grew up (farming/ranching community) you eat steak medium-rare and no steak sauce, it’s like an unspoken rule! Well-done steak is a sin!
I’m not a super prissy girl because I grew up on a farm. I’m not a tomboy, but I also don’t scream and run away from snakes or spiders. So maybe there are “man-like” things I do that I just don’t even think of as such.
ADD: He mows that lawn and shovels the snow though! 🙂 Fine by me!
Post # 7
he hates to admit it but i’m the primary bug killer in our relationship. i’m also a bigger fan of building things than he is. it’s not that he can’t do it….he just chooses not to most of the time. i used to always help my dad out with building things and i still love doing it.
Post # 8
well if you want to be traditional about it we don’t conform very well to traditional gender roles. I make all the money, I have a science background. Mr vista is a musician and he is in school, so he does all the housework cleaning baking etc. I used to do all the cooking (since you can only eat so much toast/ spaghetti) but he is learning how to cook actual meals and now he does most of the cooking too.
He still kills the spiders and drives the car though!
Post # 9
i am usually the “techie”… besides our tv stereo system… anything computer related is all me. even my in-laws know that, so when they have trouble with their computers — they call me.
i drive most of the time, but that’s just because my car’s better on gas mileage and my car’s a bit too small for Darling Husband to be comfy driving…
those are the only major man-ish things. but i will say that when it comes to me doing his duties (outdoor work) over him doing mine (ie. dishes/laundry) i’ve done more of his share than he has mine. >:P
Post # 10
I drink beer and watch sports. He does not. ‘Nuff said.
I tell him that my love of beer and sports has been wasted on him!!
Post # 11
@Theresa90405: We totally fight about the bugs in our house. We will jump around each other trying to kill a bug and who has to flush it down the toilet. It’s hilarious.
Post # 12
I have to add in something about the bug killing too! Mr.flipflops will totally touch and get rid of the bugs. I will not! It bugs that crap out of me (no pun!hehe) that he WONT kill the bugs! He will walk all the way out side to let the ugly, 20 million legged creature that just tried to kill me with a heart attack, go safely. Just kill the dang thing!!!
Post # 13
When I moved my flat screen tv, xbox, surround sound system, etc (yes, I had all the electronics) in to Mr. G’s house, I had to connect everything…he had no idea how to even begin to put it all together. He still asks which remote does what (lol)
When we have date night and go to a restaurant, I will tell him what I want to eat and drink, and let him order for me, as he likes to do it. Gurandamnteed, everytime, the beer will be placed in front of him, and whatever umbrella, fruit garnished monstrosity he has ordered, is placed in front of me. Ewww *switch!*
Post # 14
My “masculine” behavior is a little off the chart… I mean, I look like a girl and mostly dress like a girl (albeit a lazy one) but if I start talking about when I’m the “manly” one I might never stop! I am a bigger sports fan, drive 100% of the time (no exageration necessary), put together most of the furniture, think of my career as a way to challenge myself and support us versus him wanting to change the world for the better. I’m sometimes afraid that I come off as emasculating because I am a massive tomboy and a very aggressive person. But of all the men I’ve met, he’s one of the most secure in his masculinity. He’s not really effeminite (which would be fine with me – as you can tell I am very anti-gender roles), he’s strong physically and emotionally, but unafraid to like stuff that is thought of as typically feminine (we both love musical theater!).
I’m really very anti gender roles in the first place, though. The idea of defining myself as being female or defining him as being male really irks me. I’d like to think what’s more important is what’s between my ears not my legs (though while still having a sense of humor about both).
Post # 15
Not really. I guess we follow the traditional, old school gender roles. I cook and clean, arrange most of our social schedule, make appointments, pretty much keep him on schedule. I have a great memory for when things are due, etc.
He does yard work, car stuff, driving, etc.
Right now I make more money than he does, but eventually he will surpass my earnings.
I also kill all spiders 🙂 He’s scared of them! Hahaha!
Post # 16
Yet another spider killer here! The ONLY time I ask him to kill them (and he will do so with attitude!) is when I don’t have my glasses on and I don’t want to ‘lose’ the bug and not be able to ‘see’ where it went! Lol!
I do a lot of the handy work as well though he does have a vested interest in it also. I help him a L-O-T with the yard work of digging and landscaping we are doing ourselves. (So it’s me helping as opposed to his buddies!)
If something is wrong with my car, I will do a lot of research and present to him as to what I think the problem is and how I got to that conclusion, to make sure I got it ‘right’. I don’t just say “something’s wrong with my car, fix it!” I baby my car a lot.
Fiance can sit through romantic comedies and that’s good enough! He also used to (before his PC died) a huge collection of love songs, which I did not have. In fact I was a rocker for the longest time.