(Closed) Is there anyone that has postpone a HM till a few months later? I’m bummed.

posted 7 years ago in Honeymoons
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

I’m not waiting, but I’m afraid that we will be EXHAUSTED on our honeymoon cause we are leaving the day after.

Maybe it’s better that you are waiting to kind of have something else big to look forward to after the wedding, and you’ll be rested!

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

@mhackney21:I’m sorry your bummed. :-/

Could you go to a local B&B for a few nights?

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

FI’s work is up in the air right now so we don’t know if we will be able to do a honeymoon.  He has a casual position that is contracted yearly and that is up in december.  If he doesn’t move up in the company and get a career position we might be able to take a honeymoon, because as a casual he doesn’t get vacation days and it will be like pulling teeth for him to get off time for the wedding.  He only gets off one day a week, and it’s a tuesday, and they are real jerks about needing time off for things, yes, even for his own wedding I’m sure.  They were jerks when he needed time off for his grandfathers funeral, then when his other grandfather died a few months after the first one, they were jerks about that too, and someone said “didn’t you just have a grandfather die?” like they didn’t believe him. Ugh, sorry that was a bit of a rant, but im still pissed about it, haha.

Anyway, we decided that if possible we will take a night or two ad a B&B type place, then probably have a 1-year anniversdary honeymoon thing, and plan something big.  We are not people that do yearly vacations, so it will still be special to us.  I’m thinking a road trip to vermont or something similar. 

I can understand you’re sad, I’m a little bit too.  But it is what it is, and I figure we just gotta make the best of it, right : ) 

And maybe like a PP said it’s something else to look foraward too, so maybe you won’t have those post-wedding blues that I’ve read about on here a few times.  You’ll have a wonderful honeymoon to plan : )

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2004

yep. we are waiting a month for ours.. im a teacher and we are getting married in the middle of the school term. because i havent been working long enough to have long service leave, i wont get paid leae untill the holidays. we cant afford for me not to be working, so we are waiting a month to go on ours.. at first i was fine with it.. but i keep getting more bummed about it the more i think about it.. 🙁

 

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper

Darling Husband is military and couldn’t take any more leave due to an inspection on base, so we still haven’t taken ours. We’re planning on doing something nice on our 1 year. We’re thinking Ireland or Italy for a few days, since it’s fast and inexpensive to get there from here.

 

Strangely enough, our 1st choice for Honeymoon was London and a month after our wedding, they told us we were being moved to England. Woo!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We’re waiting as well.

We are taking a few days off after the wedding, and we will be staying in our wedding accommodation. We are just looking forward to being able to relax and spend some time together.

We are hopefully going to do a honeymoon trip around our 6 month anniversary. I was completely over planning and hated the thought of having to plan a honeymoon as well, and we weren’t sure what we could really afford until the wedding is over.

I glad we did it this way. It gives us something else to look forward to after the wedding.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m in the same boat- twice! We’re doing a civil ceremony in Europe in May followed by a big wedding in the US in September. Fiance is still in school, so the real Honeymoon will happen later during one of his vacations. 

So far we had planned to go on a mini-moon after our civil ceremony because the actual wedding is during the school year…. but now we figured out that a mini-moon won’t be an option either! That hit me pretty hard- starting a marriage without any couple’s time is rough. 

I agree with @Evie19, you should go do a B&B thing the weekend after you come back. Do you know any nice places in CA you’d iike to go to? Just hang out, eat good food and take some walks?

Post # 11
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Blushing bee

My daughter and her husband waited a few months before they went on their honeymoon. It was due both to finances and work schedules. I felt bad for my daughter because I always thought it was so romantic to go on your honeymoon right after the wedding. My daughter wasn’t upset at all. They spent a night at a great hotel in the city where they live (Miami) and hung out at the beach the next day relaxing. They went on a honeymoon to Napa Valley and San Francisco 3 months after their wedding.

They had an awesome time. My daughter said it was so much fun planning the honeymoon without the stress of planning a wedding at the same time.

Looking back to when I got married (26 years ago!)- my husband and I went on our honeymoon the day after our wedding. I remember being so tired on the plane to Jamaica the next day. I was actually so exhausted the day after we arrived I could barely get out of bed. Postponing the honeymoon for a few months probably would have been a good thing.

 

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

We spent a couple of nights on a “mini-moon” right after the wedding in December (mainly to get away from family)…we just went to an indoor waterpark/hotel in a neighboring state. 

As we both worked at a university, taking more time off than that would have been a problem. We went on our “real” honeymoon to Eastern Europe in May. It was a great to have that break in between. It gave us time to come down off of the wedding high and really enjoy the time we had. 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

we were married in July, and didn’t honeymoon until late August. while I was kind of bummed to go back into work that week, it definitely gave us something to look forward to!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m sorry you’re bummed. We aren’t waiting because of logistics and when we can get off from school and work, but I have heard from people who have waited that it was one of the best decisions that they made for a few reasons. Stress of planning both a wedding and honeymoon at the same time, money stress of two big expenses at once, and you also don’t get that post-wedding letdown of having nothing to look forward to.

I think it will end up being great for you and your husband, but again, I’m sorry you’re upset about it.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

We have to work around his school schedule so we’re probably going to wait till February or maybe even April. I don’t mind. It gives me something else to plan after the weddingis over.

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I know a lot of people that waited weeks or months to take a honeymoon.

The only reason we took our honeymoon right after the wedding is because we had a destination wedding, so we just stayed in Florida for the honeymoon too.

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