Post # 17
My opinion is that your guests will look to you, and that will determine the level of fun at the event. If you’re enjoying yourself, socializing, and dancing, your guests will follow suit. If you’re moping about the lack of alcohol, that will probably determine the mood for your party. I definitely don’t think that alcohol is necessary to get people to have fun and dance, as long as you remain upbeat and enjoy yourself, your guests will follow your lead!
Post # 18
we’re not having alcohol. i worried that it would get boring… and had anticipated having all kinds of activities to do, but my Future In-Laws convinced me that it really won’t be a problem, that families will be so interested in meeting each other and friends will be reconnecting that time will fly by.
what i have done to make myself feel better about it, though, is have an earlier event. 1pm ceremony, 2p-5p reception. the reception will be “fancy” bar-b-que and the whole event is casual. we will have a fauxtobooth and a temporary tattoo parlor, and probably 3 kinds of guest books! so there will be “activities” but not pin-the-tail-on-the-donkey-type stuff. we’re not big dancers, so there will be music and a small space for dancing… but i think the time of day will alleviate the pressure for dancing. our venue also has an outdoors area (where our ceremony is) so maybe we’ll have some frisbees or whiffleball on hand, just in case.
otherwise, i’ve stopped sweating it. all of his family/friends know he’s never drank a drop in his life and all of my family/friends know i’m in recovery so i highly doubt anyone would even expect it to be anything but dry! (besides, yay us for saving a ton of money by not having booze!)
Post # 19
we’re not having alcohol, because we don’t drink. also, very few of our guests drink, and those who do only drink socially. alcohol is so expensive, so i’m actually excited about skipping out on it. we’re a fun bunch, so i don’t think we need the alcohol. we’ll be having great music, great food, dancing, fauxtobooth, a few games (with prizes), and some footballs and stuff (it’s outside). i think everyone will have plenty to do. if your friends and family can’t have fun without alcohol that may be a problem. like, gcwest said, you set the mood. if you’re having fun they should be having fun too! 🙂
Post # 20
we’re not having alcohol either. my family is super-religious, my father is a minister. his family is also very religious and his father is in recovery. we are doing a luncheon reception from 2-5 and having a 4 course sit down meal which should take some time. i haven’t decided how to handle the toast (sparkling juice vs champagne). Fiance and I actually drink and the few friends we invited also drink. hopefully the time of the reception will knix that urge. i am thinking of having just wine offered and we’ll just pay for it by the glass (maybe) for those approximately 10 guests who may want it.
Post # 21
also, since the reception is early, we may catch up later with friends for an afterparty out on the town….maybe
Post # 22
I honestly don’t understand the logic behind the idea that everyone and their cousin thinks that no alcohol = boring. People have a ton of fun all the time (not at weddings) where there is not a drop of alcohol to be seen. Why does a wedding make a difference? If someone cannot go a few hrs without alcohol and they cannot enjoy themselves without it, then they have bigger issues to deal with on their own time.
Tons of people skip alcohol at their weddings, whether it’s due to religious beliefs, they may be a recovering alcoholic and don’t want the temptation around, or they may not drink for any reason. It doesn’t matter why it isn’t there. But people are able to enjoy themselves without it. It’s also not true that just because there is no alcohol that the party will be over in an hour max. One of the liveliest weddings I’ve been to where no one wanted to leave several hrs after the reception “was supposed to end” according to the rest of the world, because they were having such a great time didn’t have a drop of alcohol on site.
That said, we’re not having alcohol just because only a rare few will drink it and it doesn’t justify the cost. It’s nice to have, but if no one will drink it, it’s not worth the expense. The folks on our guest list know how to party it up and enjoy themselves just like anyone who does drink.
Post # 23
our wedding will be dry by our own choice 🙂
neither I not the Boyfriend or Best Friend (still waiting) drink, and we have family issues with alcoholism, so we’re just not going to have any 🙂 I’m not worried: we always have fun anyways!
Post # 24
I think that a dry reception can be just as enjoyable. I do agree that I’d prefer a drink or two if I was attending a wedding…but at my own, even though we are serving an open bar, I plan to only drink during the champange toast (just the one drink, not pounding shots during the toasts hehe). Is it at all possible for you to offer just a small amount of alcohol for those who would like it, or just the bridal party? if not, I say enjoy dancing, your new hubby and maybe games? Everyone loves door prizes 😉
Post # 25
Is mingling and dancing not enough entertainment? It keeps most people happy and occupied. Weddings don’t have door prizes nor do they need them. That’s what they do at showers.
Post # 26
I think that most people at the wedding truly are not there for the free food and beer to put it roughly. They are there to celebrate a joining of families and honestly most of them are going to spend a lot of the night talking and having fun sans alcohol. We’re having it be alcohol free for several reasons:
- I can’t drink, I won’t be 21 yet.
- FI’s family is mormon and therefore does not drink.
- Neither of us are huge fans of alcohol and how many people cannot hold their liquor.
- We’re marrying in an LDS church and I don’t think they’d allow alcohol.
- Our guests for the most part, won’t even notice the lack of booze.
Pretty much as long as you have fun, your guests will too.
Post # 27
“Weddings don’t have door prizes nor do they need them. That’s what they do at showers.” – I think that’s an unfair statement. YOUR wedding may not have prizes, but that doesn’t mean ALL weddings don’t. If someone choses to do something like that, why the heck not? It’s their wedding, right? We’re playing some games with prizes because that’s what we want. We’re excited about it.
Post # 28
We don’t drink and wouldn’t serve any alcohol, so to us it’s not a big deal – but to get people dancing, I’ve seen people have a dance instructor come teach something different like salsa or swing, and people seem to get on the floor for that, and then stay on the floor once that’s over. A photobooth is a fun activity, especially the DIY kind. If you have a DJ, a good one knows how to keep people in on the party. From what I’ve heard, if the bride and groom are dancing, other people will be too.
Post # 29
periwinkle- i think a dance instructor sounds like so much fun. i’ve never heard of that. that’s awesome! 🙂
Post # 30
There are some good ideas on here. (Photo booth, games, etc). I’m wondering the same thing because my wedding will be at a Christian summer camp. I’m thinking of having a party before or after with my friends and keeping the wedding dry (my grandparents would be mortified if we served booze in any form).
Post # 31
We are not having alchol because we do not drink, and my daddy is a minister (my parents feel that it will be hipocritcal to host a party where everyone is getting drunk). Also, we would have to hire security if we had alcohol. Although most of my family are drinkers, they have no problem dancing while sober. They look forward to dancing more than alcohol so they have no problem with it.
You can have a soul train line. Peole love those! They always get people up and moving.