(Closed) Is there anyone you secretly hope will not attend?

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 17
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@CookieCreamCakes:  LOVE THIS POST!

My mom insisted on invited my cousins. They are 30 years older than me. Except for one of the five, I haven’t seen them since my dad’s funeral when I was 9-years-old… and then I was too busy crying over my dead dad to remember meeting these people! I literally wouldn’t know them if I physically bumped into them in the street. She wants to invite them and their spouses and my aunt… a total of 9 extra people at our intimate wedding. 🙁 All this because the one I HAVE seen (though only once, about 8 years ago) straight-out asked to be invited, and my mom feels that she can’t invite her without her mother, 4 brothers, and the brothers’ wives. OY.

I won’t die if they come… but I really have no interest in basically “meeting” this people on my wedding day.

Post # 18
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Bumble bee

I have a cousin who is involved with a woman that is awful. She’s abusive towards their eldest daughter and she causes gigantic scenes on a regular basis. I know I’ll probably have to invite her if I want to invite the rest of my cousins. Blech. :/

ETA: Also one of my sibling’s is dating someone that I just don’t trust and although I feel bad part of me hopes they aren’t together by the time I get married!

Post # 19
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Yes. Tons… That probably sounds terrible but considering there are quite a few people that were invited becuase our parents wanted them invited I really wouldn’t miss them at all.

Post # 20
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1487 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Trying not to sound like a biotch but…

 

I’d prefer if my FI’s entire extended family that I was forced to invite do not show.  I’ve been promised that they most likely won’t show and I’m really hoping they do not.    Nothing against them, but I was forced to invite like 20 of them because FI’s mom said it was “only proper”…. Fiance hasn’t seen them in yeears and they never visit the family, so I’m not feeling the urge for them to really show up.   

 

 

Post # 21
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3172 posts
Sugar bee

My cousin, mom’s husband, and one of FI’s cousins.

Post # 22
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4272 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Already married, but there was one person.

My father’s wife who apparently called me a skank because I was living with my husband before marriage. This was overheard by my little sister.

There was also a lot of drama regarding the fact that my dad insisted on bringing her. My mom did not want her there and said she would hide during the entire wedding.

I told him not to bring her and he gave me the guilt trip that he would be alone while my mom had her boyfriend to keep her company. So I caved but secretly hoped she would not come.

She did, but my mom did not hide which was a surprise although she did pull a tantrum upon seeing the woman arrive. I was cordial to her but did not talk to her much. Everything went fine.

Post # 23
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113 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

-My teenaged 2nd cousins.

-My first cousins’ other grandmother and her freeloading boyfriend. (Seriously why do I have to invite them? She is a bore and he is a freeloading cheapskate.)

-Also: one of my FH’s groomsmen. He’s an ass.

Post # 24
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

My Future Mother-In-Law and her husband. 

Post # 25
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8469 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I made sure I didn’t invite anyone I truly didn’t want there cuz ya just never know. 

Post # 26
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113 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

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@Rubbs:  I wish I could leave mine off! My mom won’t let me! You’re lucky! 

Post # 27
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

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@mrstau732:  Yeah, it was very tough convincing her that I’d prefer some people not get an invitation. I was basically like mom why would I invite people that haven’t been in our lives in so long? So she ended up being ok with it. 

Post # 28
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Yes, I’m so glad I’m clearly not the only person who feels like this.

 

I would rather not have any of my mum’s side of the family there and that at times includes my mum as well. They are rough, rude and just unplasant people.

 

They ruined my hen night. Origianally I wanted a small wedding of 25 guests, it is now 35 which isn’t much more but it feels like a lot when I don’t really want a large proportion of them there. I am worried my wedding day will be rubbish because of them and arguments will break out.

 

i wish we had just decided to elope, but it’s two weeks away now.

Post # 29
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161 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@CookieCreamCakes:  my dads entire family. A first he said we didn’t have to invite them but then relented and said “they’re family”. Ugh!!

Post # 30
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

FI’s brother, because he has alcohol issues and I’m scared he’ll get ridiculously drunk and make a scene.

And my grandmother, because she’s a massive attention grabber and tried to make my cousin’s recent wedding all about her – but unfortunately nothing would keep her away.

Post # 31
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Helper bee

Ugh, yes! Nobody specific, but we invited right at the maximum number that we could have WITHOUT a dance floor and hope to be able to still have one. The more people that RSVP no, the more we can get down. 😀

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