(Closed) Is there anyone you secretly hope will not attend?

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 77
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

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@Overjoyed:  

wow,i know that hurts.i just cant understand how parents can say some of the things they do to their children,they have to know it hurts.i mean for her to say(i have to come to your wedding)wtf,she is your mom,she should want to be there.im so sorry she is being that way to you♥

 if you dont want kids,dont have them,your mom will get over it,its rude of her to try and get her way,just so rude.

Post # 78
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Big fat YES to that question lol.

Post # 79
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Yes. There are two people who I’d rather not have come, but I’m 95% sure that they will be there. Oh, well.

Post # 80
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

To some degree, I kind of hope that my grandparents won’t come. They’ve been nothing but awful to FH despite the fact they have only met him once. They came to FMIL’s wake for the sole purpose of seeing how “good” FH’s family was and how well off they were. It was disgusting. Even now they refuse to acknowldge that FH and I are together, so it’s likely they won’t come to the wedding either.

FH also has an aunt that we don’t want to come. She’s just, overly dramatic, and feels that regardless of the event taking place, all of the focus should be on her. She’s also just not a nic person. When aunt’s mother was in the hospital dying, she told the family not to call her until the woman had died, because she was going to go over to her house and pick up the things she wanted… We aren’t sending her an invitation, but we know that word will probably reach her and she’ll try to show up anyway. 

Post # 81
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

We decided that we weren’t going to invite anyone that we didn’t genuinely want to come.  We knew that feelings would be hurt, and people would probably be mad but we decided that in the end our happiness was more important than theirs.  

My aunt and her family assumed they were invited even though I haven’t mentioned it to them.  I had to tell them that they weren’t the other day.  They were offended but I explained that we only invited 50 people and if we invited all extended family our list would have doubled.  I figure that they will get over it. 

Post # 82
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

My Aunt [although I don’t really consider her an aunt].

First off, she’s never worked a day in her life, and she has 6 kids. Each kid is messed up…Her oldest ran away and has been on all kinds of drugs, not to mention a super slut.

Anyway, she’s always “made” her money from “fortunate” events. Her car got stolen and she recieved a payoff. Her house catches on fire and she gets another payoff + alot of donations from townsfolk. Her ex husband dies so she gets money from the state… ect ect.

On top of that, when I was younger [maybe 10?.. my cousin is 2 years younger than me btw], they were living with us because she couldn’t afford to live out on her own. Well, my cousin was pretty messed up, every guy that’s ever come near her she’s claimed molested her. [At least 5 guys we know of] She accused my brother of molesting her. I WAS IN THE ROOM. She walked up to him, reached in his pants, pulled out his thing, and she pushed her away and told her to stay away. She then told him she was going to tell on him if he didn’t let her touch it…..

Yeah. Not cool. So she told her mom that he made her touch him.

My aunt & all her little brats aren’t really welcome, but I’m being forced to send them an invite.

Post # 83
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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@sharonmariep:  thanks for that. It has been really tough and my mom’s behavior has truly put a damper on my wedding planning.

Post # 84
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Yep, like 5 people! Hahaha, that’s horrible.

Post # 85
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Busy bee

FSIL/bridesmaid…. I can dream…

Post # 86
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

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@jenilynevette:  

that is terrible,maybe somewere small on the invite you could write something like”hope to not see you there,or hoping for a no on the rsvp(jk)idk, maybe you can put word of mouth to someone who gossiups that your hoping they dont come and it will get back to them and they wont show?

 

it really sucks when family members try and force the bride and groom to invite people they dont want there.

its their wedding,why should they have to look at people who they cant stand.

so far i been begged by my brothers girlfriend to invite her grandma,and i told her no a couple of times,then i got pissed the last time and i got ignorant and said i dont know the lady,i can only inite 60 people and she isnt one of them.i mean dam,i invited her mom,which i do know her but not really well and i been to her house a few times for my brothers kids bday partys and a couple bbq over the summer,i would rather not have,but i did because my brother asked,if i didnt know her it would hae been no even if my brother asked. 

Post # 87
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I wouldn’t lose sleep if a couple of my cousins didn’t show (they’re only getting an invite because it’s protocol) but then again I hear from the Family Grapevine that they’re thinking of RSVP’ing ‘no’ because their 2 kids aren’t invited.

 

My even crazier, nasty cousin who doesn’t even like me and has nothing to do with me – is kicking up a big fuss because he is not invited, and the family are picking sides over it. Soooo much FUN ! (sarcastic).

 

I have no idea what the hell is wrong with my family but FH’s family haven’t put one toe out of line yet and have not complained about anything (well if they have I do not hear about it) – and they’re the ones that have to fly to the other side of the country!

Post # 88
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

My fi step sister. It’s not really a secret lol. Shes actually not even getting an invite. But she lives with fi dad & stepmom. They keep talking about her coming & don’t really get that you can’t just show up. The weddings they usually attend are more of a free for all, not formal events. If they bring her fi sisters will remove her!

Post # 89
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - White Point Garden, Charleston, SC

FI’s most recent ex. They’re still friends so I’ll probably have to invite her, but the whole thing makes me super uncomfortable.

Post # 90
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Yes-I’m hoping 60-70% of my guest don’t come (destination wedding). I really want an intimate wedding with only the people who supported Fiance and me throughout the years. But somehow our 40 person guest list expanded to 150!!!! And we’re still making cuts…Fiance is so sweet wants to invite everyone. So going with the average of 60% people coming to a destination wedding I think we’ll be fine (maybe not).  

Post # 91
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

I know this sounds horrible but quite a few family members on his father’s side are (God  forgive me) white trash. His immediately family is not like that at all (i have the best in-laws a girl could hope for) but some aunts and cousins are just too much to handle. I don’t mind if they show up in jeans (and they will, trust me, I’ve seen them do it at other weddings) but I’m concerned there will be a drunken brawl or two before the night is over. I’ve already received a few rsvp’s that they will be attending with pleasure. Wish me luck!

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