Post # 92
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Blushing bee
One of my bms, who I can’t remember why I asked her to be one in the first place. She’s been really critical and unpleasant every time I’ve been around her.
I last talked with her a few weeks ago and she complained that flights were getting too expensive…and blamed me for not sharing enough info with her (at the time, everyone but her on our 10-person bridal party had booked their flights, no prob.) I’m hoping that she’s going to contact me any day now saying she just can’t make it with the expense…
Post # 93
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1326 posts
Bumble bee
I hope my boss and his wife don’t show up. I invited them out of etiquette, but I really don’t want them there.
Post # 94
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29 posts
Newbee
my FSIL!!! i can’t stand her!!! she is rude and mean and has tried to break me and her brother up during our whole relationship. and shes the one who set us up!!!! she refuses to even address me now through fb messages or texting (my fiance doesnt have a phone so she has to contact him through mine…) also i don’t want my biological father there. he was physically and emotionally towards my mother and then later me once she left then he kicked me out as soon as i turned 18. fingers crossed they don’t come but i know his sister definitely will unless there is some major issue…
Post # 95
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Bumble bee
I had hoped my friend and his boyfriend (our ex-officiant) wouldn’t show. They caused a lot of unnecessary hurt and drama just because ex-officiant threw a baby fit over not wanting to read our vows as they were, insulting them and insulting me by extension (“I thought you were a writer!”). He was not joking, doubled down on his rudeness, never offered to repay the money we paid him (essentially, he was paid to insult us). I never brought it up because I was trying to salvage the friendship in any possible way.
Then – surprise – they actually came to the wedding. And…they ate and drank up a bunch of booze. And they were the only guests who had the audacity to not even give us a card. I didn’t expect the money back (I would have had a great deal of respect for him if he at least offered, but I would not have taken it back) but not even a card – seriously? You can’t pay fifty cents (I KNOW it’s 2 for a dollar at Dollar Tree!) and write, “Congratulations,” inside? This is a friend who’s meticulous about giving cards for events, too, so the slight is all the more palpable. They were the only people who made a profit off of my wedding.
I wish they hadn’t come, and besides talking to them the minimal amount that I was required (and I was cordial, civil and bubbly), I didn’t go out of my way to hang out with them. I can at least be happy that they also acted that way, though their other behavior definitely raises some eyebrows. Well – on the upside, I’m out of such a one-sided friendship. Phew.
I was happy on my wedding day because when they pulled me into a hug as they were departing, I was thinking, “This is the last time I’ll ever have to see either of you again.” And it will be.
Post # 96
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Honey bee
1. My biological father. His presence irks me but my Fiance reminds me that at the end of the day, he’s still my father and I must respect him enough to at least invite him.
2. FI’s niece, her husband, and his step-mother. They will worry him to death. They mean well and want to be there for him, but there visit will end with them asking him for money. They can’t afford to come and I hope they make the right ADULT decision by staying home.
I think that’s about it.
Post # 97
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17 posts
Newbee
My aunt who is being super shady! When her daughter was getting married a few years ago we bent over backwards to help her in every way possible even though we were in a different state. She was on the phone with my mother literally ever single day. We went out to where she lived Wed before the wedding stayed up late working on DIY projects and running all over the place. We spent an extra day after the wedding because she said oh we’re having a family brunch and xyz. None of that happened so that was an unnecessary hotel expense. We were nothing but happy for her as the first family member from our ‘generation’ to get married and have a nice wedding. Now it’s my turn and they are both acting so shady. Neither of them has rsvp’d She’s complaining about having to get a hotel room, she hasn’t even booked her ticket yet. She’s complaining about me not inviting other familiy members. I don’t care who you are, you disrespect my momma don’t expect an invite to my wedding that simple uncle aunt whatever. Long story short I wouldn’t lose any sleep if she doesn’t come because I don’t want anyone causing drama at our celebration.
Post # 98
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1604 posts
Bumble bee
My Stepmother. Even her own kid wouldnt let her come to his wedding.
Post # 99
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770 posts
Busy bee
Nothing to screw you up like a parent. If my dad didn’t show, I’d be almost as hurt as I’d be incredibly relieved. Unfortunately, I heard that he’s already bought a plane ticket. 
Post # 100
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1684 posts
Bumble bee
Pretty much my mom’s entire side of the family.
White trash alcoholics all around.
Fabulous.
Post # 101
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234 posts
Helper bee
As a rule for our guestlist we are onyl inviting people who have met our daughter, it cut it by about 100 guests! Except for a couple of Fiance old f=childhood friends that his mother is INSISTING on us inviting…. I hope they flake out like they do for everything else! and okay, if Future Mother-In-Law and her weirdo boyfriend didnt show I would be totally fine maybe even a little happy 😉
Post # 102
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Helper bee
This thread is fantastic! I add my grandfather: he left my grandmom years ago, was terribly physically abusive to his kids (left them with permanent damage), loud, abnoxious, rude, arrogant, etc. etc. And guess what, he couldn’t come, so good. And of course he didn’t send the RSVP back or a card, but that goes along with his general a*s behavior I suppose.