Post # 197
@asagirl: I am in the same boat….our church will not allow us to do flower petals even silk ones because they have had issues in the past with people just leaving them on the floor, and then it damaging vaccuums….i also think the handfuls of rose petals are over done…..but im still doing my 2 signs wether anyone likes them or not….we do! and its what we can do with our church…..
I think alot of things wedding are overdone…..I 10000% agree that random furniture in a field make me crazy….and when the biggest city girl prisses i know are “rocking their “shit Kickers”” as alot of people call em that i grew up with for their wedding….and i know they have never even been near a feild/farm/barn or anything and just went out and bought a several hundred dollar pair of boots for their wedding….and try and say they are all country because they bought a pair of levi’s and daisy duked them and bought a mens flannel and tied it up under the tata’s…..no honey that dosent make you country, it makes you look redikulous, and it makes me nuts to see it all over pintrest like throw on boots and instantly look country….though im not gonna say that my boots are not the most comfortable shoes i own because that would be a lie, but anywho….i never wear shorts like that in a field or near it because corn pollen itches like a mother, milo dust is no joke and saddle rash on your inner thighs is not pleasant…..
but i think in general you could argue that anything and everything wedding related is way overdone…..either way….most people who attend who arent currently planning or just done planning a wedding probably wont know or care…
eta: last time trying to fix spacing if this dosent work oh well here goes lucky number 3
Post # 199
Did anyone say mason jars? Or barn weddings?
It’s just an affectation to use mason jars as decor if you’ve never used them to preserve food or to have a wedding in a barn if you’ve never had to wake up before the sun came up to shovel shit.
Post # 200
- Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia
Shrug, I’ve always liked mason jars before I stumbled upon Pinterest. I’m very much allowed to upcycle or recycle spaghetti jars as I please. I’ve reused them for jam jars, applesauce jars; etc. I cannot see why I cannot turn them into a vase or lantern, just because it has been re-pinned to death. I’m on a budget, so I use what I’ve got! At the end of the day, it’s the celebration of my fiance and I getting married, so I can care less if people ASSumed I borrowed my ideas from Pinterest.
I find it is rather annoying that 20+ other brides is repinning my teal invite idea, with alerts sent to my phone on an almost hourly basis. 😛 (Jokes! Joking! But you can see why this kind of what’s overdone putdown on Pinterest can get to be very condescending and hurtful towards other brides who are more sensitive.)
The only things that I see on Pinterest that peeves me are the ones that are different from what has been discussed here.
- OTT; usually items that are unnecessary or unrealistic, but are on Pinterest to encourage brides to spend: for example, a chandelier on an archway for an outdoor wedding. (Yeah, okay, like we NEED to pack or rent a chandelier just for the wedding)
And centrepieces that look like I need to spend over $200 per table for. (Sorry, but over-priced/fancy centrepieces doesn’t match with my fiance’s and my personalities)
- No information on budget required for DIY projects; so, if you were to start digging for sources and supplies, you’d be disappointed if it doesn’t fit in your budget
- When people re-pin my pins, they don’t edit the blurb I typed for myself.
- Photography: are those stylized shoots? I generally skip any photography pins because I’m a great believer of letting things happen naturally.
If you ask me what’s over done at weddings? It has got to be satin chair covers. Honestly, I just like a plain naked chair. I feel naked as a guest when the chair looks nicer than me.
P.S. Planning a wedding does not need to be a contest of whose wedding is more offbeat/unique. 😉 If you like signs, then do it! Do what makes you happy.
Post # 201
@Sadiepoo: true, there is nothing original about blush colored decor. The big difference is the three themes you described were timeless. The brides weren’t trying to be “unique.” What makes all this kitschy stuff annoying is that it’s not aesthetically pleasing, it’s not classic, and it’s not creative. These are just tacky trends. Give me the classic champagne colored wedding over mason jars and burlap any day of the week. Whatever these classic looks lack in originality, they make up for in beauty.
Post # 202
I could go on for days about this. As someone who grew up “rustic,” I find this all a bit irritating.
Post # 203
Things overdone at weddings? Oh, totally the whole “two people getting married to spend the rest of their lives together.” Every. Damn. One.
… Yeah, obviously I don’t care if something is overdone. If it fits, it fits. I’ll get over my temporary disgruntled mood at “how dare they use mason jars just like Pinterest?” Whatever. Rock on.
Post # 204
“Vintagey” anything. Bleh. Which is funny as I am someone who is very much into retro and old school design. But the muted colors and overused muddy filters or overly saturated images just get a bit much. As someone in the Arts & design industry, I LOVE colours, but I also prefer natural light in photographs. Which is how I ended up choosing our photographer – anyone who had muddy/noise filtered or overly saturated images in their portfolio were quickly axed…and I ended up choosing a photographer who shoots mainly with natural light and just captures emotion SO beautifully. Which is what you want to be looking at 50yrs from now – not the trendy (then dated) overly photoshopped images.
But thats not to say Pinterest doesn’t have its merits- it has made the planning process that much easier, and suffice to say :YES i am addicted too and there will definitely be some small elements in decor that will be from pinterest 😛
Post # 205
With the use of digital cameras and technology, these little things that are being overdone wouldn’t actually be overdone. You just happen to see them more now with the use of technology and social networking. Imagine 20 years ago, without all the tech advances we’ve had, in the days like today. You’d never really know how many vintage themed, mason jars, or chalkboard pick a seat signs there are. I’m having a 1920s themed wedding that I’ve wanted since 2006. And I’ll be using mason jar oil lamps in centerpieces. So I guess I fit that trend. Even though I had it picked out yrs ago… Sad face. Oh well.
Post # 206
Hahahahaha sorry but another one for “choose a seat, not a side” photos with signs that say “she stole my heart” and “so I stole his last name.”
I love unique and love fun photos but those 2 are soooooooooooooooo overdone! I do however love seeing brides fun pics with her bridal party and stuff!
Post # 207
@MissTrin: The “…so I stole his last name” signs irritate me to no end.
Part of it’s because I’m keeping my name, part of it’s because YOU CAN’T STEAL A NAME. The guy will still have his last name after the wedding. If anything, he’s stealing YOURS, because you won’t have your last name afterward.
Post # 208
- Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia
@laken.oliver: Exactly! 🙂 1920s theme sounds like a lot of fun!
Mine is a 1950s theme. While my colours aren’t muted/pastels, I believe a wedding is the day when a couple can do the heck they want!
I’m going to start a new trend on Pinterest, so that mason jars become acceptable again. Soon, candy bouquets will become a fad… and you all will hate me.
Post # 209
In general, the problem is people are just aping what’s trendy right now. Does this represent who you are as a couple, or is it just a pretty, shiny object (figuratively, of course) that you got distracted by when planning your wedding?
It’s not like Pinterest and bridal magazines hawking trends are new things. There were ads for ruffled powder blue tuxedos and tacky floral print bridemaids dresses in bridal magazines in the 70s and 80s. And people got them because they felt like they wanted to follow the trend.
Here’s a portion of an ad from a 1975 bridal magazine. People though this was REALLY COOL AND UNIQUE back then!
So are you going to look back at your burlap and mason jars from your suburban home in 20 years and say “wtf were we thinking?” Is it really something that represents who you are right now or is it just something you think is pretty?
(And about these “pick a seat, not a side” signs: Why not just, “Please sit wherever you’d like!”? You don’t have to make a pretentious statement about “two families coming together.”)