Is there anything you wish you had done differently before TTC?

posted 3 years ago in TTC
Post # 2
633 posts
Busy bee

I absolutely wish we had started earlier. So, so, so much.

We could have sped up our timeline easily by at least a year, maybe more. But I was dragging my feet – not because I didn’t know whether I wanted children, but …. well, it’s change, and change is scary. My husband was ready to go a long time ago. The delay is 100% my fault, and I regret it every time I think about it.

If I could travel back in time, I’d tell my very-slightly-younger self that having a baby a little earlier than is ‘optimal’ is better than running the risk of not having a baby at all…

Post # 3
1387 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Are there reasons as why you’re worried about your fertility? Fertility issues can strike no matter your age. In my circle a lot of my friends were 32 when they first started TTC and most were pregnant within six months. 

I did not have fertility issues, but I have irregular periods. I could go a month or two without a period. My GYNO suggested doing a few tests to see if I had PCOS, etc. I tests came back negative. It is rare, though, that they will test for fertility issues if you are under 35. It only took us three months and my baby girl is now 12w old. 

I’m pretty happy with our timeline. We didn’t start TTC until I was 30ish and Darling Husband was 34. We wanted to wait and be married a couple of years first and also travel (we’re still traveling with baby, but we wanted some bigger trips out of the way). We were together roughly 5 years before getting married. 

You’re life will change – a lot! I’m still getting use to it and not having a lot of Darling Husband and I time. 

Post # 5
3009 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

poppinbottles :  I would have worried less! I had my first at 32 and it took us four months to conceive. I was starting to get worried there was something wrong- obviously there wasn’t and I’m pregnant again (only took two months) with our second and I’m 35. I think worrying about your fertility is pointless. If there is a problem it won’t be age related. You could always get your ovarian reserve checked and a sperm analysis for you husband if you really wanted to. Are you both in good health and lead a fairly healthy lifestyle? Do you have a mostly regular, normallmenstrual cycle? If so I would just relax and only start to worry if actual problems arise. I’m so glad I didn’t have children any sooner. Early-mid thirties has been perfect for us. Good luck!

Post # 6
262 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I wish we had started earlier knowing now how long it’s taking. We could have enjoyed the process instead of feeling like at this point we need a baby today. Exaggeration obviously but you get the point. 

Post # 7
1387 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

poppinbottles :  Don’t let the issues with your mom worry you! I know easier said than done. It took my mother 4 years to have me and as you can see it didn’t even take us half a year. Maybe you and Darling Husband can compromise some. I get the worries – it’s easy to worry for sure. 

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