(Closed) Is there assigned seating at your reception?

posted 10 years ago in Reception
  • poll: How is your reception organized?

    Sit wherever you want!

    Just table numbers, no name cards.

    Specific name cards for each plate.

  • Post # 32
    1955 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School

    I’ve been to one wedding where there was no assigned seating and like others, it was stressful trying to find seats and we ended up at a table of half my friends and half were older family friends of the bride…Just annoying and awkward bc we would’ve much preferred to sit at a table with all our friends but couldn’t get one all together…

    I vote for definetly having assigned tables but the place cards are not necessary 🙂

    Post # 34
    332 posts
    Helper bee
    Post # 35
    332 posts
    Helper bee

    I would never dream of assigning seats to guests. I would hate going to a wedding that did so. No offense to those that do it. I think its where Im from and what Im use to. I have never ever been to a wedding where they told me where to sit and I’ve never felt uncomfortable choosing a seat and I’ve been to a lot of weddings. Its just not the norm around here as far as I know. At the weddings I go to, you just sit in that seat for dinner only and then everyone is everywhere having a good time. I just don’t think I would like them.

    Post # 36
    140 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    We are having assigned tables, but not actual seats. We just want to make sure that the people we want closest to us will be ie:parents, grandparetns, etc. And I don’t really want it to be a mad dash to the tables, i’m hoping that by having assigned tables it will be less confusing, and there will only be 8 people at a table and not people cramming 10 chairs into one table.

    Post # 37
    325 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I agree with at least table numbers (for round) seats for long rectangles. The weddings I’ve been to without have been stressful for me as a guest, only because I am such an introvert, I didn’t know where to sit.

    Post # 38
    1426 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    I agree that assigned tables are best.  We don’t have the space to have any empty seats, so if we did free seating then the people who came in last would likely be faced with the awkward situation where there weren’t two seats open together.  I’ve only ever had bad experiences with open seating.  Most of the problems that people have mentioned with assigned tables (being stuck in the back, sitting with people you don’t know) are only more likely to happen with open seating, but are all problems that can be minimized with assigned tables.

    Post # 39
    59 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    It’s just not traditional in our area to have assigned seating. I’ve never been to a wedding in my area that had it and my mom feels like people would be bumfuzzled by it! lol.. go figure.

    I guess it goes by the norms of your area and how you feel about it yourself.

    Post # 40
    3315 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    We had two receptions (one right after the ceremony in MA, one back home in DC).  At both, we had open seating.  The one in MA was very small–only a dozen people–so we all just sat around one big table.  At the one in DC, most of the guests already knew each other, and there were no parties larger than 2, so I figured they could find their own seats.

    Assigned seating can be helpful for large families, so they don’t end up having to split up among tables.  Or if you are trying to avoid your FI’s drunken frat brother sitting next to your Puritanical Aunt Mildred.  However, we just didn’t feel the need for them.

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