Post # 32
- Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School
I’ve been to one wedding where there was no assigned seating and like others, it was stressful trying to find seats and we ended up at a table of half my friends and half were older family friends of the bride…Just annoying and awkward bc we would’ve much preferred to sit at a table with all our friends but couldn’t get one all together…
I vote for definetly having assigned tables but the place cards are not necessary 🙂
Post # 33
You ladies are wonderful! Thank you so much for your insight. I had fiance read this and you changed his mind and mine, too. We’re going with escort cards but not specific seats. It’ll add more work for us but if our guests have a better time it’s well worth it. Now, picking what kind of escort cards…decisions, decisions!
Post # 35
I would never dream of assigning seats to guests. I would hate going to a wedding that did so. No offense to those that do it. I think its where Im from and what Im use to. I have never ever been to a wedding where they told me where to sit and I’ve never felt uncomfortable choosing a seat and I’ve been to a lot of weddings. Its just not the norm around here as far as I know. At the weddings I go to, you just sit in that seat for dinner only and then everyone is everywhere having a good time. I just don’t think I would like them.
Post # 36
We are having assigned tables, but not actual seats. We just want to make sure that the people we want closest to us will be ie:parents, grandparetns, etc. And I don’t really want it to be a mad dash to the tables, i’m hoping that by having assigned tables it will be less confusing, and there will only be 8 people at a table and not people cramming 10 chairs into one table.
Post # 37
I agree with at least table numbers (for round) seats for long rectangles. The weddings I’ve been to without have been stressful for me as a guest, only because I am such an introvert, I didn’t know where to sit.
Post # 38
I agree that assigned tables are best. We don’t have the space to have any empty seats, so if we did free seating then the people who came in last would likely be faced with the awkward situation where there weren’t two seats open together. I’ve only ever had bad experiences with open seating. Most of the problems that people have mentioned with assigned tables (being stuck in the back, sitting with people you don’t know) are only more likely to happen with open seating, but are all problems that can be minimized with assigned tables.
Post # 39
It’s just not traditional in our area to have assigned seating. I’ve never been to a wedding in my area that had it and my mom feels like people would be bumfuzzled by it! lol.. go figure.
I guess it goes by the norms of your area and how you feel about it yourself.
Post # 40
We had two receptions (one right after the ceremony in MA, one back home in DC). At both, we had open seating. The one in MA was very small–only a dozen people–so we all just sat around one big table. At the one in DC, most of the guests already knew each other, and there were no parties larger than 2, so I figured they could find their own seats.
Assigned seating can be helpful for large families, so they don’t end up having to split up among tables. Or if you are trying to avoid your FI’s drunken frat brother sitting next to your Puritanical Aunt Mildred. However, we just didn’t feel the need for them.