(Closed) Is there some significance to being engaged?

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@mnp:  What a sweet bf you have! I agree with you that it makes things easier if you have already made a commitment. I think that sometimes, (not always, i know) but SOMETIMES it can lead to resentment however you and your Boyfriend or Best Friend talk about it beforehand and just be totally upfront about your financial situation then it should be fine. It sounds like he’s thought it through. He realizes that it will benefit the entire family, not just you, so that’s great! It sounds like you are about to be engaged anyway 🙂

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I think as long as you know you are going to be in it for the long haul and there is a future for you guys there is no harm in letting him help you with school. Part of making that commitment to each other is supporting one another in your goals. I think making that promise to each other diminishes the feeling of ‘taking something from him without any return’ because you are promising a lifetime of support in all aspects of life, not just financially.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Here are my 2 cents:  I lent a boyfriend some money for school.  It was actually intended to be a loan, but we both really REALLY! assumed we’d get married and then it would be moot.  So he started paying me back little by little.

Then we broke up.  He still owes me $400 but it’s been so long that I just don’t care anymore.

If you are sure you really are going to get married, I guess there’s nothing wrong with that.  I have a friend who has been with his g/f for like 7 years and they’ve lived together for 3. He makes more than her and has offered to help her pay for school and vacations, etc. but she won’t let him.  However they are planning to get married when she’s done school.  So… why not let him?

Take from that what you will.  Good luck!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017 - Vegas Wedings

If your boyfriend went ring shopping with your sister, is there a chance you two will be engaged by the time Fall rolls around? It sounds like the ball is rolling with regards to taking your relationship to the next level. I would personally say somthing to the effect of, “Assuming we are enagaged by the time I start school, I would love help with the finances.”

Im similar to you when it comes to accepting help from a b.f. He lives in my house with me but I wont allow him to help with big ticket items like a new ‘fridge or furnace. I want to keep things as simple as possible. I also HATE that he wants to act like we are engaged by assuming he’ll pay for that stuff and trying to plan parts of the wedding. If you’re that serious go get a ring, until then we’re just dating and you’re living in my place. I will not cheapen a future relationship status by jumping the gun. I know Im weird but he luckly he does understand when I remind him where the line in the sand is.

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