(Closed) Is there something wrong with us?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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540 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Pokemon:  Absolutely not.  I invited 200, 100-120 showed.  My sister is inviting 50, and a good friend of mine invited 600.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Pokemon:  I would prefer to have only my closest family and friends… which would probably end up totalling around 40, if everyone came. Of course, the SO’s family is HUGE. So even though there will be more people there, I don’t necessarily know them. You will be glad you had your nearest and dearest, regardless of the number.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Don’t feel sad!! The less people you have the more intimate your day will be! Just think, you get to celebrate your special day with people that you love the MOST! And you get to give them all of your attention, you dont have to try and go around to 600 people and say hello!!!!!!!!!  

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Not at all. We’re inviting 104, but my mom was one of 10 kids, and my Fiance lived his entire life in the same town, until we moved an hour away 3 years ago. But we’re still “local” enough to invite quite a.few friends he grew up with.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Of course not. We’re at 210 people and that’s majority family.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

A lot of the huge guest lists may just be because of big families. I know Persian weddings include 600 people normally. I hardly believe they actually have relationships with all 600 lol.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Some people have huge families. And some people try their best to keep in touch with everyone they’ve ever met. Everyone’s different.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Pokemon:  So your venue requires 50 to attend or 50 to be invited?  What about coworkers?  Any close neighbors?  You shouldn’t feel friendless and sad!  Our list would have been 50 if we didn’t have to invite the entire state of Wisconsin to accomodate DH’s family.

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper

@Pokemon:  I also think it is a regional/cultural thing as well. In Australia big weddings are 100-150 guests whilst an average wedding is 50-80 guests. Not many people have large weddings over 200 people and those that do are normally from a culture of large weddings and families.

I think it is also a cost thing- it is hard in the big cities to find good catering/reception centres for under $100/guest. The average cost of a wedding in Australia with under 100 guests is around $30K- everything is expensive!

Larger countries have more choices- more venues, more bendors etc which keeps pricing competitive.

I think 50 people or less is the perfect number for a wedding- but hey Im an Aussie lol

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Pokemon:  Yeah, in my opinion, I’d rather pay a fee than invite people I could care less about lol. Good luck, lady! <3

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Nope, if Fiance wasn’t inviting a bunch of cousins he hasn’t seen in 10 years and can’t remember names of, we would be under 50 as well. If it makes you feel better, give everyone +1s. Without them, we’re at 63. With them, we’re at 83. 

Also, judging by what my Future Mother-In-Law thought would be an acceptable guest list for FI’s side, I’m guessing those 500+ guest events are full of near-strangers to the couple. She wanted to invite people he had never heard of. 

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

It depends on who you really want to invite I guess….

I have a large family….a lot of friends (from different aspects of my life) and really close co workers (whom I consider friends)

Fiance has a smaller family, TONNES of friends, and some co workers he would want to invite…

We are HOPING to keep it down to 80….but it will be hard…I honestly didn’t realize how many people I consider a close friend whom would WANT to come to my wedding until NOW….

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