- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014 - Italiano's Humble
If she wants to step down, or what’s going on? I mean after you’ve tried and tried to figure out what’s going on, and just being brushed off.
I’ve posted before about issues with my Maid/Matron of Honor. Since then, I was under the impression things were fine. But when my other friend’s father got put on a transplant list,(he’s on a lung transplant list, we didn’t think he’d make it through this year), she has tentatively agreed to be a bridesmaid.
Since the new addition(which, omg, me and Bridesmaid or Best Man both are sooooo excited about, as well as my matron and my sister-another BM), my MaidOH has been dodging me again. I’ve tried to ask her to hang out, go out, gone by her house. She’s always sleeping, never answers her phone, and when she does call, it was about someone else’s wedding invitations getting lost. Our other friend is getting married this summer, and she’s Maid/Matron of Honor in that wedding. Which is fine. But as I had mentioned before, my wedding will be her 3rd this year, with one being out of state.
Whenever I can get her to talk, all she does is talk vaguely, complain about her ex, and says something “oh hey, i can’t do ____, b/c of this”…but then we see something online that she’s doing something else.
I get everyone has other lives. Crap, she’s my only “local” Bridal Party member. We’re not doing much planning, but I’ve tried getting with the other girls thru FB and text about music and dresses, and all she does is complain about the dresses, or her new tactic is to read the message, then leave the conversation. I figured I’d wait til after the other friend’s wedding this summer was over, to ask if she wanted to help plan. But, the other wedding is during the summer/fall crossover, and out of state. So, I really don’t know what to do. She keeps asking ME what I want to do, and I keep telling her that they all know me, and that they should all get “together”, and discuss this stuff.
What do I do? I thought about not asking her to help with anything, and let her do the “show up, look pretty” thing. But the other BM’s & GM’s are alllll into doing something for us, and whenever it’s mentioned that hey, there’s other Bridal Party members, she sulks.