Post # 1
Hi all. I am having two showers (hometown and town where I live) but I am only having about 15 people AT my wedding (it’s destination)… A lot of my friends are still students and very much so on a budget. So we just registered but I wanted to be sure there was PLENTY of $20 or less options, and of course some big ticket items like plates and knives/forks. But because there are so many $20 ish items, I feel like my registry is saying, “Buy me a lot.” Which is TOTALLY not what I want it to do!! We weren’t even going to register but my mom and Future Mother-In-Law insisted that we did so we didn’t end up with six waffle irons… But we have asked people going to the wedding not to buy us a gift, so this registry is mainly for people attending my showers. What do you guys think?
Is there such a thing as “too much” on a bridal registry?
Post # 3
A general guideline is to have ~2 items per invited guest. If you put too much more than that, it can start to look gift grabby. Keep in mind that if it starts getting low, you can always add more stuff later.
Post # 4
I’d never heard that general guideline before…that’s really helpful!
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)
Hmm, I don’t necessarily think you can have “too much.” People will buy what they can afford, and it’s good to have a variety of options at a variety of price points. That said, I initally registered for a lot, but then took of quite a bit because I wanted to narrow it down to those items that DH and I really wanted and needed. There were a lot of things on that first registry that would have been nice, but that we didn’t need/want right away and wouldn’t mind buying ourselves down the road. I hope that makes sense! Even with the more slender registry, we still got duplicates and a few things we didn’t register for, and we definitely didn’t get a lot of the things that we really needed (like our bedding). So I guess just keep all that in mind as you’re registering! If you’re happy to get any of the items, then I think you’re OK leaving them on your registry.
Post # 6
@msfahrenheit: That is a great guideline!!! I am going to count how many items I have on there tomorrow!!
@parasol, I totally know what you mean. That’s a really good idea also. I think I’m going to let things rest for the night, then after counting how much stuff I have on there, I will take off the stuff that can wait.
Post # 7
I’d never heard of that rule before- that’s a good one!
We’ve run into this fear too! We would really like to register for a honeymoon as we don’t need “stuff”. But a lot of the older guests will not go for that and have asked for a traditional registry. I’m worried on how to “split it up” on the honeymoon registry vs. the traditoinal one.
Post # 8
I think the problem is definitely getting things you want but not need. We registered for a lot of stuff, but then ended up not getting some of the things we needed, and instead ot impulsive things we put on there that we wanted at the time but have no use/room for now. I think its better to keep it tailored to things you need to guide your guests to buy those. good luck!
Post # 9
totally understand where youre coming from! i went and registered at bed bath and beyond last week and the lady told me since im expecting 100 guest to register for atleast 200 items! i was like whoa really?!?!? seemed like alot!
Post # 10
Well I counted and it turns out I had picked 185 items (granted, that’s including 12 placesettings for china and flatware counted individually). I made a list of the probables that would have gone to the wedding prior to us moving it to Hawaii, and it’s about 100 in addition to the 60 attending the showers… Also granted, those 100 people may not even send us presents. I decided to cut it down and removed all of the big ticket items besides the staples in a wedding registry.
Post # 11
We added tons of stuff simply because if we don’t receive it, we can get a 20% discount on all unpurchased items. Then Fiance and I can buy them ourselves!
Post # 12
No, and I think it’s great that you did a lot of $20 options because in my experience as a wedding guest or baby shower guest the bride or expecting Mom only puts about 5-10 $20 items which are the first ones to go then guests like me are left to try and find another guest to split a $60 gift with! I’m sorry, but I can’t afford to buy your $600 stroller or $300 kitchenaid mixer!
Post # 13
Where did you register?
Haha yeah I know if I was in my guests position I would want a $20 gift.. I’m still a student too and VERY low budget!!!