(Closed) Is there technically etiquette concerning Save the Dates?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2815 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I don’t think there is any official ettiquette like there is for invitations.  We just sent postcards out.  I don’t think they have to be anything formal or anything.  

Post # 4
266 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Jennawesbren: “o Well!!!”


no big deal, it depends on your circle! your fsil…prob not in the circle

Post # 5
804 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think the only ettiquette is that if they get a STD, they also need an invitation.  We’re not even doing Save-The-Date Cards, it’s not in our budget and they’re a relatively new thing.  We’re just going to send the invites out earlier than we would have if we had sent Save-The-Date Cards.

Post # 6
3265 posts
Sugar bee

Something that I haven’t seen posted yet is the misconception that STD’s are a required part of the invitation suite. 

They are an extra, and in no way required. 

The other main role is that they are an invitation, and anyone receiving an STD must receive a formal invite.  No exceptions.  If that person and you have a falling out, tough beans.  So use them sparingly and only for those guests that you simply cannot imagine getting married without. 

Post # 7
418 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I think I would be more inclined to give Save the Dates to people other than my immediate family, who would probably already know about it. I would send them to extended family and friends who I really did want to save the date. Otherwise, you certainly aren’t breaking any etiquette rules!

Post # 8
2657 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Im sending them out to everyone. I LOVE the idea of them. Well and plus I want to give my guests who are out of town time to save,etc.

I think you hand delivering is fine. Especially if your close to the people.

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