(Closed) Is there that "one thing" you wish was different about your SO?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 17
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I wish he wouldn’t play video games as much… COD has almost ruined my marriage MANY times… I HATE IT! 

Post # 18
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Garden

Oh Boy… reading this post had me thinkng if my Fiance would change anything from me? I know he loves me, and I love him to death. Seriously, I wouldn’t change anything about him, sometimes I think he’s a little too obsessed about saving, and investing in new properties (he’s 26 and owns 2 apartments and is currently paying the apartment where we live) but then, we travel a lot, he spoiles me everytime he can, I can’t complaint about anything. 

But… what would he change about me?

 

Post # 19
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

@MissStumptown:  Lmao. Its almost like I wrote that! Haha. 

 

I can deal with his shortness and strangeness, but I wish he’d be a little less dramatic sometimes. Like right now. He’s sick (he’s had a tiny cold for 3 days) and is acting like its the end of the world. Boy, I was sick for 2 weeks and a whole lot worse off than you are. Hush up.

Post # 20
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I wish he was more of a handy guy, a lot of times he askes me how to do things or i have to end up doing things myself. I’m always like damn whats the point of having you around?? lol Oh well no one is perfect in this world. you win someyou lose some

@chillinchillin I completely understand where your coming from, me and SO have been together for 10 yrs (since we were 17) and when it was time to start talking about marriage I was like.. is he really the one?? But I think this is normal, I think its the responsible thing to do, marriage isnt easy and should be thought about. But like I said no one is perfect and yu have to weigh your options and if him not being educated enough or not having your same level of ambition is something that makes you unhappy and that you cant over look I say dont get married. You will never find the perfect person if this were possible marriage would be easy but its NOT! Just remember that the grass isnt always greener on the other side

Post # 21
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I wish he would go in to work earlier so that he could get done earlier! I’m a teacher and wake up at 5:45 to work 7-4, but he doesn’t get up until 9 or 10 a lot of the time, so then he doesn’t get home until 8…9…10, and then I’m ready for bed!

Post # 22
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I wish he was more adventurous with food!!! My guy is SUCH a mashed potatoes and steak guy…refuses to try anything outside of: chicken cutlets, corn succotash, mashed potatoes, buffalo wings, pasta, meatballs, garlic bread, and eggs. LITERALLY. Won’t even try spinach artichoke dip!! His food repetoire kills me-I LOVE to cook and I’m pretty damn good at it..and he won’t eat anything 🙁

Post # 23
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

He would be more affectionate! Fiance HATES cuddling! And hand holding. Post sex, he occasionally says “That was kind of like cuddling, so we don’t have to cuddle now, right?”

And I just want to wreck him.

 

Post # 24
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I wish my husband wasn’t as much of a workaholic too, but I also know that he genuinely likes to work, make money, and do all the financially responsible stuff that I can’t get into like planning and budgeting. I just follow the leader on that.

 

I think if there was something HE’D like to change about me, it would be to make me less sloppy. I’ll do laundry but let it sit in the dryer for a couple days or leave the milk with a sip left in the gallon in the fridge, those kind of things.

Post # 26
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Bumble bee

I wish he cared more about health. I study environmental health so I’ll talk to him sometimes about nutrition, carcinogens, etc. When I mention carcinogenic habits, he says “Well, you have to die of something!”

What?!

On a level perhaps similar to OP, I sometimes wish he cared more about the world. I’m very involved in environmental movements, whereas he doesn’t really care about anything that doesn’t impact him directly. I’ve found, though, that in real life that makes us compatible. My SO reminds me that there are many important things to life. If your guy is adventurous, you’ll have many more wonderful experiences that you wouldn’t have with anyone else. It sounds like he’s on his way to becoming what you want, but don’t expect it. I think it’s great when couples encourage each other to become better people, even if it’s pushing towards something you want personally, and it sounds like your SO is willing to be challenged. 

Post # 27
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I wish he didn’t have to work out of town two weeks a month (though I’m sure he won’t have to forever).

I wish he wouldn’t freak out so much about the small stuff in life (when he can’t find any gotch, traffic jams, having to wait in line to renew his passport – that kind of stuff sends him into a tizzy far too easily!).

I wish he had found me ten years sooner because I love him like crazy!

Post # 28
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Thank you, I was thinking of starting this kind of thread as I am sometimes think I need 100% match and have unrealistic expectations.  In another thread another bee mentioned that she felt like relationships were like Blackjack and if you have a hand of 19 you stay. I was nervous the oh-so-perfect bee’s would comment on how amazing their husbands, Fiance and bf’s were. 

1. That he was neater, our apartment right now has 3 bags of garbage in the kitchen and his dirty laundry doesn’t seem to make it into the hamper.  It then “needs” to be done last minute, Sunday at 9pm.

3. He has higher self-steem.  He works out very day and runs and he looks fit- but for him he wishes he was “jacked,” which isn’t in his cards.

4. He was angry less.  He isn’t abusive or angry with me, but sometimes he will get really ticked off at something small; someone cutting him off in traffic and takes a while to calm down and realize it’s not personal and the universe plays no favorites.  He has been working on this and told me this isn’t “father-like behavior” and he needs more patience.

What he would say about me:

1. I was more fit, worked out and ate better.

2. I was more serious about certain things.

3. We had more TV shows, movies, video games, etc in common.

 

Post # 29
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I’d make him richer :p I love him to death and I’m SO happy he loves his job, but it would be great to have more money. Oh well, love is better 🙂 

Post # 30
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I’d make him richer :p I love him to death and I’m SO happy he loves his job, but it would be great to have more money. Oh well, love is better 🙂 

Post # 31
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I wish he wasn’t such a conservative.

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