(Closed) Is this a bad idea?

posted 8 years ago in Venue
  • poll: What location should I choose?
    The one I love, even if it means copying my BM : (18 votes)
    86 %
    The one my family and I have bad memories at : (0 votes)
    Move the wedding to a different city : (2 votes)
    10 %
    Other... please explain below, thanks! : (1 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
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    171 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    First, talk to your bridesmaid! Every wedding is different and even though you might use the same venue, your wedding will have a different feel and flair. So before you stress too much just ask ๐Ÿ˜‰ If she is a friend, she will understand your dilemma and hopefully be accomodating.

    Post # 4
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    837 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Personally, and I don’t mean this to be mean at all, but I think you’re being ridiculous about it.  No one is going to think your copying your Bridesmaid or Best Man, every wedding is different in some way!  She doesn’t have sole rights to a venue or any other vendor.  Would you be this concerned if you were going to use the same cake vendor, photographer, dj?  If you really concerned about it, just tell her that this venue is the only one that works in your budget and for your family.  If she’s a good friend (which I’m assuming she is since she’s in your wedding and since you’re this concerned) then she will understand why you can’t have it at the other place.  Good luck and don’t stress about the small things! =)

    Post # 5
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    14186 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Personally I don’t think it’s a big deal. I got married June 20 last year and I had a good friend of mine message me and ask me if I’d mind if she got married June 19 this year at the same place I got married!

    I don’t own it. I told her of COURSE i didn’t mind. In fact I thought it was silly she even asked! Yet very sweet of her to do. Plus, chances are you won’t have a HUGE overlap anyways.

    Post # 6
    Member
    6597 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I don’t think it’s a big deal at all!

    Talk to your Bridesmaid or Best Man about it and I am sure she won’t mind and you can go on happily planning your wedding!

    Don’t sweat the small stuff!

    Post # 8
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    2867 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I think so long as you tell her what’s up – not that you’re copying her or trying to steal her ideas – but that it’s the only thing you can afford, then you should be good.

    She might be upset but she’s not going to be the ONLY person to get married there. I’d say just make sure not to borrow any of her other ideas. Venue’s can look totally different depending on decor but if you decide on similar flowers and linens then your weddings may look like duplicates.

    Post # 9
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    860 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Talk to your Bridesmaid or Best Man.  Tell her that the only other venue in your budget has bad memories attached to it.  You can still make your weddings look different with decorations, etc.

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