Post # 1
Okay bees, before anything, first world problem warning. SO and I were just talking about our gifts from Christmas when he asked me randomly what do I want for my birthday this year. I couldn’t think of anything on the spot so I told him, “How about a new tv in the bedroom?”. Our newer tv is in the living room and the older tv (the huge bulky kind) is in our bedroom. According to him that’s not really a present because that would be something we would share. I guess he is thinking that a present for me is something for only me such as a purse, perfume, jewelry etc. Would you consider this as a personal gift or something for the house? Just curious what you guys think.
Post # 2
If that’s what you want then it is fine for it to be a gift
Post # 3
socalgirl1689: If you want it and you guys probably wouldn’t get it otherwise (or wouldn’t get it NOW) then it’s a gift. If he wants it too and you guys can afford to get that plus a different just-for-you gift, that works too.
Post # 4
I’d consider it a gift. If we had a working TV in the bedroom, even if it was old and outdated, we wouldn’t replace it “just because” – it would pretty much have to stop working for us to buy a brand new one for no reason. If I or my Fiance, however, asked for a new one as a gift we would probably look into it.
Post # 5
I would consider this something for the house. I agree with your SO that a gift is something that is more personal and for you only, like clothes or jewelry or perfume (although obv not limited to those things).
Post # 6
I would consider that a gift, but since he benefits too, maybe dinner out?
Post # 7
I’d consider it something for the house although if that is what you want I see no issue with it being a birthday gift.
Post # 8
Yeah I would consider it something for the house.
Post # 9
JessieFay13: It’s his old tv from his parent’s house. I think it’s from 1999 when we was still a teen-ager but it still works. The only thing is it’s not able to use applications from the Ipad and high resolution compatibilities.
Post # 10
socalgirl1689: I would consider it something for the house however as I don’t celebrate my birthday, if Fiance wanted to get me something anyway (he always insists) then I’d be fine with something for the house. If he would want a newer TV in the bedroom too then why don’t you guys split the cost and both of you forego a birthday gift this year? That way it’s like you’re both buying each other one half of the TV and money you would ordinarily be spending on a present will instead go into something you guys can enjoy together for longer.
Post # 11
My Boyfriend or Best Friend and I often get things for the house as gifts for each other. I consider the real gift to be the other person’s doing all the research, bargain hunting, logistical arrangements, etc.
Post # 12
The tv sounds like a fine gift. It can still be a gift even if others benefit in addition to the gift recipient. He’s making it more difficult than it should be!
Post # 13
Most gifts I get are for both of us. My husband will push me to ask for and buy things just for me, for birthdays and christmas. Its hard when I know we NEED something.
Post # 14
It’s quite individual–if that’s something you would greatly enjoy and wouldn’t otherwise purchase then yes, it’s a wonderful gift. If it’s something the two of you might go out and buy anyway in a few months then I understand why he would want to give you something more personal.
I personally was quite thrilled to receive a commercial-size food processer for Christmas one year to replace my regular Cuisinart but have friends who would be offended to receive a kitchen appliance–it comes down to what makes you happy.
Post # 15
craigslistgirl: I know, right? I think most guys would be “You want a tv for your birthday? Great idea!” in a quickness HAHA