(Closed) Is this a birthday gift or not?

posted 4 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 2
9526 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

If that’s what you want then it is fine for it to be a gift

Post # 3
8969 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

socalgirl1689:  If you want it and you guys probably wouldn’t get it otherwise (or wouldn’t get it NOW) then it’s a gift. If he wants it too and you guys can afford to get that plus a different just-for-you gift, that works too.

Post # 4
2655 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

I’d consider it a gift. If we had a working TV in the bedroom, even if it was old and outdated, we wouldn’t replace it “just because” – it would pretty much have to stop working for us to buy a brand new one for no reason. If I or my Fiance, however, asked for a new one as a gift we would probably look into it.

Post # 5
3611 posts
Sugar bee

I would consider this something for the house. I agree with your SO that a gift is something that is more personal and for you only, like clothes or jewelry or perfume (although obv not limited to those things).

Post # 6
1169 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I would consider that a gift, but since he benefits too, maybe dinner out?

Post # 7
2109 posts
Buzzing bee

I’d consider it something for the house although if that is what you want I see no issue with it being a birthday gift.


Post # 8
461 posts
Helper bee

Yeah I would consider it something for the house.

Post # 10
2011 posts
Buzzing bee

socalgirl1689: I would consider it something for the house however as I don’t celebrate my birthday, if Fiance wanted to get me something anyway (he always insists) then I’d be fine with something for the house. If he would want a newer TV in the bedroom too then why don’t you guys split the cost and both of you forego a birthday gift this year? That way it’s like you’re both buying each other one half of the TV and money you would ordinarily be spending on a present will instead go into something you guys can enjoy together for longer.

Post # 11
687 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

My Boyfriend or Best Friend and I often get things for the house as gifts for each other. I consider the real gift to be the other person’s doing all the research, bargain hunting, logistical arrangements, etc.  

Post # 12
7899 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

The tv sounds like a fine gift. It can still be a gift even if others benefit in addition to the gift recipient. He’s making it more difficult than it should be! 

Post # 13
2176 posts
Buzzing bee

Most gifts I get are for both of us. My husband will push me to ask for and buy things just for me, for birthdays and christmas. Its hard when I know we NEED something. 

Post # 14
6863 posts
Busy Beekeeper

It’s quite individual–if that’s something you would greatly enjoy and wouldn’t otherwise purchase then yes, it’s a wonderful gift. If it’s something the two of you might go out and buy anyway in a few months then I understand why he would want to give you something more personal. 

I personally was quite thrilled to receive a commercial-size food processer for Christmas one year to replace my regular Cuisinart but have friends who would be offended to receive a kitchen appliance–it comes down to what makes you happy. 

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