- 5 years ago
- Wedding: February 2014
I’m very confused and I hope you will give me the benefit of the doubt that I’m a gracious person in regards to these wedding showers. I have no bridal party because I didn’t want one and I begged my family and friends not to thrown any parties for me and to save their money. The family insisted in my home state and a good friend of mine insisted on throwing me a NYC shower with my friends. I told her thank you and I thought it was very sweet of her to do so.
She asked me for a list of friends I want to invite. The first time I gave her the small list of 10 ladies she kind of winced and told me well Jenna has issues with Tara so I’m not sure that would work and Karen isn’t talking to Melissa right now (these are women in their 40s btw) but she followed it with “Whatever you want, it’s your party. But just give me a list next week so we can break it down better.” Well I came back to her the next week with the same list. I’m aware of how some people aren’t nuts about each other but I figured they could deal with it – they deal with it at other places….why not at the shower? But she told me “whatever I wanted, it was my shower.” So I bring her back the list and she tells me 10 people might not work because she’s hosting it at her house and it’s pretty small and she’s already inviting some of her sister’s friends.
I just don’t feel like this is a shower at all and I really don’t want to NOT invite two important people because she/a couple other people have some minor issues with them. They are important friends and I don’t want to exclude them. Not to mention the drama it would cause. One of these girls I went to her wedding, her bridal and BABY shower…and I’m not going to invite her to mine? That’s weird.
At this point do I just tell her no shower? She keeps telling me it’s “totally up to me” but then she tells me what’s wrong with the guest list. I’m confused on how to handle this.