Is this a dumb groom gift?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

megrays :  It’s a crappy gift if he doesn’t like or wear cologne.  Otherwise I don’t see why not.

Post # 3
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Blushing bee

If he uses cologne then I think it’s fine. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

If he wears cologne I don’t see why it would be a crappy gift.

I got my husband pictures of a squirrel (inside joke). Any gifts you give each other don’t have to be something huge or expensive, just thoughtful.

I think it would be nice to include a letter that explains the gift too.

Post # 5
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Honey bee

Does he otherwise like cologne?  Does he like whatever notes are in that scent?  For instance, while allegedly vetiver is a fresh herbal scent to some, I always get dirty ashtray from it.  I also hate white musk and Amber.  

So if it is something he will like and use, it could be a sweet gift if he understands the background and meaning to it.  If not, then it seems like a gift for you and your 17 year old self’s ideal about a husband that has nothing to do with the actual man you ended up marrying.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

Gifts should generally be chosen based on the receivers interests, not the gifter. I think the cologn would be a nice anniversary gift or Christmas gift but I would choose something for him and not so much for you for the wedding. 

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper

It’s a nice thought, but what if he doesn’t like that scent? 

Post # 8
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Busy bee

I’d say no for a few reasons.

– Getting a gift for him that’s really a gift for you isn’t much of a gift.

– “Please smell the way I’ve wanted my boyfriend to smell since I was seventeen” is a touch creepy.

– I wouldn’t give the man I chose to spend the rest of my life with a variation on the same gift that I’ve been giving every also-ran man in my life for years. 

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