- 5 years ago
- Wedding: December 2013
Hey Bees –
I am turning 30 in a couple of months. When Darling Husband and I first talked about getting engaged, I told him I wanted a sapphire and diamond ring because it’s both our birthstones. He wanted to get me a diamond ring because he said he could buy me a sapphire ring “any time”.
He bought me a beautiful princess solitaire for my e-ring. It is much bigger (1.75ct) than I ever expected and I really hope I don’t sound ungrateful because I do love it, but sometimes I find it too big to wear. I’m not a very showy person and like more understated jewelry. Darling Husband is so proud of the ring though, and when I once mentioned it is rather big, he said he likes the idea of not upgrading, and since he could afford a “bigger” diamond, that’s why he went with it.
Long story short, I really don’t need anything for my birthday, but he said he wants to get me something special so I said I would like a sapphire and diamond ring.
I should backtrack and say that Darling Husband and I were engaged once before in college, when I was 20 and he was 21. I had no idea he was proposing and he picked out a beautiful swirly ring, probably about 1/2ct weight total. It was very similar to this ring below except it was prong not channel set:
When we had talked about getting engaged again, I asked if he still had my original ring, as I had given it back to him when we broke up. He said he didn’t have it as it was stolen from his grandparent’s house when he lived there (his grandmother’s ring was stolen too). I was really sad to hear that. When I mentioned purchasing the same ring again, he said he wanted to get me something “bigger and more impressive” since we were 9 years older. To him, I think my ring is very much a status symbol as we both came from pretty humble beginnings.
Anyway, I’m not sure why, but lately I’ve been longing for my original ring. I’m assuming it’s because I’m not thrilled about turning 30, which is dumb because heck, some people don’t even make it to 30!
So finally, on to my “dumb idea” question: would it be weird to ask for a ring similar to my original one, except with a sapphire center stone? I don’t want a big ring at all; I’d maybe want a center stone of around .3 – .5ct.
I am afraid if I do ask for that, it will make me look ungrateful for my current e-ring, especially how he wanted me to have something “bigger”.
Or, should I just get something completely different? I love halo settings and sometimes wish he had gotten me a halo instead of a solitaire, so I could satisfy my halo thirst with my birthday ring.